Is it normal to call it quits all of a sudden?

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My bf suddenly wants to break up with me. We were actually having a good time and he was showing me a lot of affection, he even wrote how he wants a future with me. Then he started acting weird and distant and it turned out its cause he was having sec thoughts . I just don't get it. I feel like he either found out something about me he didn't like and it just triggered it or maybe he found someone else. I asked if it was someone else but he said no he just wants to be single. I cannot just agree to break up when everything was just thrown to my face. Like what about all the good things? Was it fake? How could he expect me to accept this easily? It just doesn't make sense.

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  • Rusty-Rider
    8 years ago

    Or maybe he realized that he was gay and is secretly dating a guy named Bubba.

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  • PlebolaVirus
    8 years ago

    Find a new one, then.

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  • bleach_baby
    8 years ago

    You said you're long distance - it sounds to me like he likes you but the sacrifice of long-distance is too much. He said some things and meant them at the time but in the cold light of day weighed things up and realised he just can't make the commitment.

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  • Kaylie3968
    8 years ago

    Well if he's gonna treat you like that, dump the sorry bitch. He's just missing out. The right guy will come around someday.. and if he's treating you like that, it's definitely not him. Find a guy that's sweet, loving, and caring. That dude is just an asshole. You'll find someone a million times better, I promise.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I assume you've never met him? "he even wrote"
    It sounds as if this relationship is completely in your mind. I think you need to step back and look at all this from a distance. At any rate it's over and perhaps a good learning experience for you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      No as in he wrote me a card. We are long-distance but we have met lol we see each other pretty often for being away.

      I just can't seem to let it go knowing he was fine and happy recently then suddenly he wants it to be over. I think I have the right to not take it so lightly and take my time. I have a feeling he probably just saw something and it hit him and now hes having second thoughts so therefore, I refuse to let it go just cause he's now being delusional and thinking nonsense all cause of something he experienced. I get where he is coming from because thats how I was with my exes and I look back and know its not right to leave a relationship because of that reason. So I can't let him do the same mistake

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        You can not stop him from making 'the same mistake'. You can not control him. If he won't stay with you, there is NOTHING you can do. Anything you try to do will drive him away faster and farther.
        It is best put as, 'If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were.'
        Sorry, but that is the only thing you can sensibly do.

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  • jeremybrown75
    8 years ago

    He sounds like a total jerk, you deserve better.

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  • flamer180
    8 years ago

    Try to talk to him about why he wants to be single.

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