Is it normal to break up with someone and still want to do stuff with them?

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I really hate when people do this and it always happens. Like I was with this person right and we broke up but like they kept flirting and said we should have sex but said there is no chance of us getting back together. Why would they still want to sleep with me. There was another girl and dating her ruined my esteem completely. She was such a basket case and kept telling me leave since I was going to dump her and we broke up and got back together a number of times. After the last time she started acting different. I later found out she no longer was interested in me. So we broke it off. After we broke it off she still kept flirting with me and I said "Are you still interested" and she said of course not. Yet wouldn't stop flirting. Why the hell do people do this? Its really confusing!

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    It's a bad idea either way. If you still have feelings for them, having sex is only going to complicate things. It's a temporary fix, until they move on.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      So it means they haven't moved on?

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      • Fall_leaves
        9 years ago

        They've moved on from the relationship. It's just residual feelings, they're used to sex with you and it's easier to sleep with you than find someone new. You're kind of like the rebound even though you dated.

        just guessing

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  • TrustMeImLying
    9 years ago

    Why? Because they are either still attached to you and need time for their emotions to fade away, or they really miss verbally wrestling with you, or they're simply indulging in a few moments of weakness -- the reasons can be plenty. But what's important is you keeping a level head and staying firm on the decision (presumably for very valid reasons) to part ways

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    Idk i think they just like the attention they get from you.
    We've all been through it, it's fucked up. But honestly if she really is bat shit crazy then why are you asking if she's still interested? Just cut her out of your life and find someone new.

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  • TheMayneDude
    9 years ago

    She wants sex with an old familiar face, because you both know each other, and it'll probably be good sex. Why venture elsewhere for bad sex? I doubt its anything more than lust... But I could be wrong. Since I do not know the entire situation.

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  • mystery7
    9 years ago

    If the sex between you was good, its an excuse to have no strings attached sex.

    Its also a way for them to really mess with your head.

    Been there too many times, it usually just creates more pain and confusion and makes the breakup longer and more drawn out.

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    I'm going though the same thing... I feel sorry for us :/

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  • Lariii
    9 years ago

    I think it could be an ego boost, they want to know that you are still interested in them, or it could be that after the breakup, you've gone from always seeing them to never seeing them, and it can be quite an adjustment.
    In my experience, people don't make the best judgements on relationship / sex straight after a breakup, a bad breakup or a breakup after a long relationship can really mess with people's heads.

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  • JD777
    9 years ago

    Either they just want ex-sex (normal), or they don't want you but want you to still want them (messed up).

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