Is it normal to break up even though you're in love with your boyfriend?

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I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday after a year and a half of dating. I've had to keep myself from crying all day. But I've thought about breaking up for a long time, mostly because it just didn't "feel right". Is this normal? I'm just 19 and in college, but am I being too nit-picky about what it means to be in a relationship? I love him so much, but is it normal to not feel satisfied with that?

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    It is normal to date different people. Each one will have their positives and negatives for you. You had a lot of time to spend with this person, and it was a blessing to you both. But there were areas that were not working for you, so it ran its course and now it's time to meet other people. If you know what you want in life and realize you can't change a person to make him what you need, you will make mature decisions. Nobody is perfect, including you. Remember that it is more of a female thing to improve ourselves and change ourselves. I have known guys who have done it, but only because THEY wanted to change for their own reasons. If you learn about personalities, it will help you pick the right partner. I like the book, "The Color Code" by Hartman.

    I see my neighbors, who are living together, going through this. She is mature and ambitious, and her boyfriend is immature. She is realizing there is a problem, but I can't just come out and tell her to run from this guy because he is never going to stop being selfish like he is. He is lazy with chores and spends all his money on cars and motorcycles. He has other bad habits. She is beautiful and almost all guys that meet her are attracted to her, so it is tempting to tell her to follow her instincts, but if I do she may end up marrying the guy and I look like a jerk, even though after 10 years and 2 kids, she ends up leaving him anyway.

    At 19 you are just beginning the journey. Try to appreciate it, even though the steps to maturity and a good life are sometimes painful.

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    For girls, I believe this is normal for them. As a guy, and all my guy friends are the same, I have to say that if I am in love with my girl there is no reason to break up. Only reason we would break up is if someone is unfaithful. It doesn't make sense to break up with someone you are in love with. You must not be telling the whole story.

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  • smallwondey89
    12 years ago

    perfectly normal..!! its my story too..!!

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  • pem24
    12 years ago

    Normal.

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  • curiousmelon
    12 years ago

    It's perfectly normal,i've been there too.Love or respect is just not enough.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    i had a gf for 13mo. she broke up wit me nd she started crying rught as she did it altho i didnt i stayed wit her that nite nd were still close friends mayb if u keep him in your ifebut rnt wit him u will feel better

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  • pat1413
    12 years ago

    Y did u love him so much?

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