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I broke up in a long relationship because I don't think I can grow while being on it. And also, I have responsibilities and dreams which I think I can't reach because we have different mindsets and plans and timeline.
Am I stupid to break up for these reasons when I still love that person? I feel selfish for hurting her.
It's less selfish than being with her and leading her on. Actually, if you really do love her, that's even kind of selfless in the sense that you're freeing her to find someone else better suited for her.
IIN to get hurt reading your comment especially "find someone else"? Well,she was very loyal and faithful and she really loved me. But just our plans don't meet and I'm afraid I won't meet someone like her. And I'm more scared of how she's doing right now, I really hope she's okay. I can't think she feels bad because of my ambitions. Is it normal to feel that way and will I be ever to stop thinking about it?
Of course it's normal, since you still love her. Yet, from what you've said, it seems you're doing the right thing by her, yourself and your dreams. Even if your decision was made because you were realistic about your future together, you will still feel sad. I can't predict for how long. What I can tell you, though, is that it does eventually go away. You lost something that was meaningful to you on some level so mourning that is inevitable. I think. I hope your decision leads you to where you want to go in your life. :)
Your reasons for breaking up are normal and often the reason relationships don’t work later on. Good thing you ended things before you got married or had children. Who knows, maybe she wasn’t happy either for the same reasons and is relieved she’s out of the relationship.