Is it normal to believe that we shouldnever fully express our love for someone?

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My experiences have caused me to believe that in a successful relationship one should never fully disclose, to their significant other, the extent of their adoration.

Let's say you fell in love with some lucky guy or gal and this love became unconditional--despite whatever physical changes they have under gone or transgressions they may have committed, Be it sexual or philisophical, you will continue to love them. Essentially there is very little to nothing your significant other can do to get you to stop loving them because every imperfection is another reason they are perfect. . . The logic of love . . .

Would it not be in our best interests to keep this information from our significant others?
It seems to me that once your other knows of this, they feel that all the fun has been taken out of the chase. From this point on they will slowly but assuredly begin to see you as clingy, needy, and desperate.

As a result, I now hold back my emotions. I still show affection but I have to plan out how I am going to react in certain situations. For example, if she asks me to do her a moderate sized favor, sometimes I'll do it and sometimes I'll decline saying, "I can't right now, I'm busy," because I dont want to seem too eager to please.

Do you feel this way? If this is the way things are, I think it's a shame we can't be stupidly in love, we can't love to madness. It's a shame love has to be so calculated.

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    If you're looking for a second rate relationship, seems like the way to go. How will you know if you're meant to be with a person if you don't allow them to accept or reject your full expression of love for them? Don't jump the gun, but eventually this is something your significant other should know.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Of course you are so right; let's build a relationship based on half truths and lies. Yep, that's a really good idea.

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    • AppleMind
      9 years ago

      I've done it the right way, with absolute honesty, and I know of a few others who have as well. It never ended well for any of us.

      Also, these half truths hurt no one other than the ones giving them because all they want is to fully express themselves. As was stated in my post.

      How about you use your many years of wisdom and offer an alternative?

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Every half truth and or lie is a trap lying in wait, that could end the right relationship. Is it worth it?

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  • Diver2
    9 years ago

    Love is great and something to be shared. If you feel it; share it!

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    The chase can continue. It's called flirting. Eventually, half truths will make your partner think your relationship isn't real, and isn't healthy.

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  • WishIWasHere
    9 years ago

    Sounds flawed to me but hey none of my relationships have been perfect so experiment, If you're young enough, you will find the right solution for you.

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  • GinnyWeasley
    9 years ago

    I agree

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  • Faceless
    9 years ago

    Somehow I feel that your idea of love is a lot like Elmyra from Tiny Toones idea of love.

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    • AppleMind
      9 years ago

      In what way?

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  • Anime7
    9 years ago

    I think you're on to something to be honest, the only way this can be avoided is if you meet someone who is just as much in love with you as the other person. But in my experience these relationships are seldom in existence because there is always an initial chase. There is always someone who asks out the person, plans the dates, and all the while tries to present themselves in a way that is loveable to the other. The only way the cycle can be broken is if both people like each other and admit to it from the start, that's how I've seen it work. But for the most part, most relationships I've seen are like how I stated, unequal from the start.

    It would be great if we could love to madness, but the fact that you have to make yourself loveable from the start kind of puts a barrier from doing that. From the start the relationship is one-sided, since your trying (key word "trying") to make someone fall in love with you but sadly (or perhaps not) love doesn't just happen.

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  • LornaMae
    9 years ago

    "I think it's a shame we can't be stupidly in love, we can't love to madness."

    It is, isn't it? I've just stopped loving like that because of it. Good for you that you are still able to :)

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