Is it normal to believe that i am not meant to fall in love?

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Now, I don't think it has to do with commitment/intimacy issues and I'm not asexual or something like that. I've had several crushes and failed relationships, all for different reasons, but I've never really been "in love." I'm not a total romantic, but my idea of being in love is along the lines of basically anyone's general idea of it. I've never felt that way about anyone. I've liked them in that I find them to be attractive and good friends. I don't even care about money/jobs. I mean I don't want a bum, but a man with a good work ethic and integrity have always trumped money for me. If that makes sense. Lol. Bottom line is I'm not exactly picky, yet no one has ever made me feel deep connections toward them. If I'm in a relationship, I can grow to really care about a person, but eventually I get tired of them. I don't think it's in the way that seems like I am scared of the commitment or intimacy because I can be an open book once I'm comfortable and when I'm in a relationship, I don't think about the stuff/people I'd be missing out on when I'm with this person. I'm always loyal and honest in a relationship. I just grow tired of people when I'm around them for too long. Sometimes even with friends, but with them it's easier to keep my distance when needed. Is this normal?
I am still pretty young (23 yrs old) so I guess I have time, but I've been with and interested in many types of men, yet can never see myself being with any for too long. The closest I've come to love is my obsession with fictional characters. Lol.

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  • i-am-froot?
    7 years ago

    A lot of people way older than yourself have the same problem and are still looking. So your feelings are definitely normal, but I wish you lots of luck.

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  • Brett_Keane
    7 years ago

    Be real. Be yourself. And don't try too hard. Many people, more than you think, have had the same thoughts and feeling that you have. Be yourself, don't worry about anything else whatsoever, and let them come to you. If anything works out, good. If it dosen't, so what.

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    • Dreamsao
      7 years ago

      Wow. You didn't say situation or individual the whole time. O.O

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      • Brett_Keane
        7 years ago

        My Mac n' Cheese addicted manatee heart situation has some Iindividual goodness in it.

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    You'll fall in love eventually, probably more than once. Just don't think about it, or jump into relationships unless you feel something a little deeper and known him long enough to develop a connection whether it's friendship or romantic.

    Also, understand that love has a different feel for everyone, but you'll always know it when you feel it, just don't become anxious about it. Enjoy life.

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  • yingvsyang
    7 years ago

    Maybe you are demisexsual, dont think too much about it.Love will come when it comes dont rush it.If you dont like somebody you cant make yourself love them it just happens naturaly so enjoy your life and dont rush.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    Love appears in the strangest places. Especially when you have stopped looking for it.

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