Is it normal to believe in him so much?

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Idk if its one of those cases where you create the image of that person youre dating when really, thats exactly what you're dealing with; the image in your head, not the person in front of you. I feel like that with him. When I first met, the first thing that I liked was our chemistry and how he was the guy I created in my head come to reality. He just seemed so well rounded and confident. And now, ugh, its just confusing. I still feel like he is that guy but the way he acts sometimes is just not what I expected of him. I feel like I can do better than him and move on to someone who actually is well rounded. But then my hope in him holds me back because I feel he will come around eventually. I see him act like the guy I think he is, with his family and some friends. But why not with me? Did I jinx it? Why does he have to be so blah with me and tell me Im crazy for thinking hes not into me? why can he be the guy I first met and the guy I know he is with his family and friends?

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    You're delusional, stop believing in this make believe person that you invented in your head! He's not that person you invented, he's himself. Stop living in pretend time.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    One of the problems with finding the 'perfect' person, is that reality rarely comes up to expectation.
    So many seem to want someone to be the person of their dreams and that's just not possible.
    Way too many women meet a cool guy and then expect to change him into the guy they want him to be, not realizing that by changing him, he is no longer the cool guy they liked when they met.

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  • smilingchild
    9 years ago

    Just leave him.

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    The term "chemistry" means nothing to me because it can mean so many things to different people. Usually it means sexual attraction, which may or may not be with someone you're compatible in other ways; more often I reckon it involves seeing the other person as you wish them to be and not as they actually are and that's what it seems has happened with you.

    Wishing & hoping & dreaming that he'll change into what you thought/imagined/hoped he was will not make one bit of difference to him, but it will fuck your head up totally. You can't change someone else and it's pointless to even try.

    Move on and don't forget you've learned a valuable lesson about self-delusion.

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  • ChocolatePrincess
    9 years ago

    This guy sounds insecure in himself he thinks that you think that you're good enough for him. If you're doubting in a relationship then it's probably time to call it quits.

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