Is it normal to be with someone who doesn't fulfill your needs?

Yeah I think the best thing to do is wait a little longer maybe like another year to see major improvements since he says he usually doesnt jump into relationships fast, it takes him about 2 yrs to finally committ to someone based on the past. Its just gonna be hard to wait cause although its been a little more than a year it feels like its been 4 yrs. I try to remind myself its only the beginning so I should stop expecting so much especially considering his views. Plus good things take time and you have to build a good foundation for something you want to last. But the process is dreading.

But I'm supposed to feel loved and special by the one I'm with, thats what I mean by needs. And he kind of lags it

Yes I'm positive. If I'd put u in my place, you would feel alone in this relationship; not much affection, no support, no love, nothing. It's not that he's mean its just hes so blah and slow emotionally and intimately. I want to feel loved and seriously I rarely feel that way with him. I think of the times he is actually loving with me and it makes me hold back from letting him go but they're barely anything. If thats how he really shows love, idk how his exes stayed with him for sucha long time. Thats why I think he's not that into me cause I know there's a lot of love there he can show he just doesn't feel like showing it to me. But then as I said, its only been a year compared to the 5 yrs hes been with one of exes so its only the beginning. She prob went through what I;m going through right now but who knows. I just know that girls in general wouldn't be patient for this.