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I am with someone in a relationship but I'm actively looking for someone else. I'm with this person for companionship but there's no future for us.
You are by definition a heartless and a cruel person on many levels and your behavior is literally loathsome. To lead on someone like this, just because you have not found the one you want a future with is indeed quite shameless. And on top of that to use that person for some sort of pass time is beyond vicious. If you only wanted companionship you should have never ever entered the relationship to begin with.
I personally, on many levels feel deeply sorry for the person who you are in relationship with. Because to be treated like that would be indescribably hurtful.
My best advice for you is to be direct with that person about what you feel and end it as fast as possible. And for a person in your situation this is the only dignified way of ending it, if you at all have any dignity left. That person deserve to be let go off and in a dignified manner. But i am pretty sure you are among those people who ghost others, because you know you are at fault and try to run away from the problems you yourself create. Thinking you can get away without any consequences or drama. I highly discourage you to ghost, no matter how tempting it may be.
Oh, and know that, what comes around goes around. Hopefully when you meet the one you really want to have a future with, that person will treat you the same way you have treated this person. And woe unto you, not once, but twice, for treating someone like that! Verily an accursed person you are.
That's pretty mean to the other person. Just tell them that it simply don't work. You are just making it harder for both of you
A human isn't a car. You can't simply replace him when you find a better version.
He also has feelings. It would be very harmful to his self esteem.
I bet you would also feel like crap when someone dumps you after weeks for the next stranger they found.
No! Terrible thing. The one who might be patiently waiting will tell you no when he or she finds that you were in a relationship the whole time. If you think you can just drag someone around like that, that is just sad
No, you'll probably never be in a fulfilling relationship with your mindset.
Lets hope noone ever treats you the way you are using you current 'companion'.
Your behaviour is tasteless to say the least.
Just stay single and date until you find someone you really like. Why would you "be with" someone that isn't up to your standards? Makes no sense and is a douche nozzle move. Say you're not ready to get into a serious or exclusive relationship from the get go if you're not. I hope you're just young and/or dumb and don't actually have such little regards for another person as to senselessly lead them on.
I am guessing you're female in which case its normal. Every stupid bitch does this. They have a line of guys off to the side ready to fuck them.
If you are a guy, no it's not normal.
Guy or girl tho you are a stupud cunt and I hope no one dates you for years and you wind up miserable and alone.
Would serve you right if you are out with him sometime, and he just..Ups and leaves with another woman. Then texts you with "Sorry, got something better"..
Sounds like you are afraid to be alone and that will bite you in the ass one day. Leave the poor bastard and take the time alone to figure yourself out before getting into another relationship. There could be some issues you have that need to be addressed. When someone does come along and you stop searching for other people, you will blow the relationship because you never took the time you needed.
Tell us what this person is getting out of it?
Just go and end it, right now! Why are you leading someone on like this?? Have some shame!
1: You did not at all explain or tell what the other person was getting out of this. Do elaborate that.
2: Do you seriously think that, thinking or saying "I thought everyone did this to some extent" is some sort of justification for continuing such despicable behavior? Leading on another person is never alright. It does not matter how common it is or to what extent other people do it. Other then that this kind of behaviour should be condemned. There are many ways to cheat on a person, some do it physically others do it deceivingly by having dishonest intention. And that in and of itself is quite insolent thing to do.
3: Read again what you replied to the others comment. To one you said; "why tell them it doesn't work when it does work?" and to the other you replied "Because the person is not changing and has no ambition". Do you not see you are contradicting yourself? Unless using others and playing with their emotions gives you some kind of pleasure and peace. I mean if something like that ever happened to me, i would not have liked a worthless and deplorable creature like yourself wasting my time. Trust me people like you are never worth it. That is why breaking it of is way better (and do tell them the reason), then leading someone on. Show some God damn integrity!
I think I understand now. In your mind, being in a relationship or dating someone is the same as being married.
Not at all. It's only your behavior of using someone that is revolting. You can actively look for someone else all you want, but the fact that you are doing it while already in a relationship is what is wrong. That is why i am saying, break it off. It will be the best for that person.
And anyway, you obviously did not answer my question, meaning your are well aware that your behavior is far from acceptable. What gives you the right to waste another persons time? if you break it off right now, that person can also go look for a better future partner, they actually really do need it.
You replied to the other user: "I like being with them, they like being with me." Hmm now try asking the person you are with "Is it normal to be with someone knowing you are looking for someone better?", and then see how long they will be with you. But you are not, because you are very well aware of the consequences and you know they will not like it. Of course they are not think of marring but still.
Seriously grow up already and stop using people and stop being a prick.