Is it normal to be with a partner that you find ok but are not deeply in love with?

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She loves me.
I have never really felt strong attachment to anyone but seeing how she gets happy around me and I kinda like her as well, I feel like just making her happy forever.
However, I do not actually feel that deep love and am sure that she loves me a lot more than I love her.
Would I regret it at some point in my life or should I allow myself to make her happy? I don't feel like falling in love deeper for anyone else. (btw I'm only 20 but take things like relationships seriously, not just for having fun with girls/women)

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  • strangethingshappen
    5 years ago

    I think majority of people are with someone they aren't madly in love with especially at least one out of the two partners.

    Think about it, we all usually fall in love with someone we can't be with so we are forced to go with our second choice.

    I think most of us are forced to be with someone we are compatible with but more than likely, we won't be madly in love because at some point in our life there was always the one that got away or who we deeply desire

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  • Tealights
    5 years ago

    You probably don't understand what you're feeling. Love is a variety of things, but overall it's selfless. Normally, men in your situation will automatically want to date other women, but don't want to give up a steady supply of puss, but you on the other hand want to remain by her side because it will make her happy forever. Deep down you probably do love her, but in your own way that's not cliche like the movies, and maybe that what's confusing you.

    Understand that love builds with time, and that relationships go through stages (Google relationship stages to learn more).

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  • perfectxsilence
    5 years ago

    If you don't feel strongly, find someone else. Love should make you light up.

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  • TheOishome
    5 years ago

    It's a tough one but I'd say hold out for love if you can find it it'll be worth it

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I dunno, but this is depressing.

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  • jack_shephard
    5 years ago

    May be you will regret it,you should just tell her how you feel & see what happens.

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  • Notderanged
    5 years ago

    I think you need to do some self exploring. You should let her off easy but don't lead her on. Go find yourself. Go to odd places, see new people, learn new things, try stuff you normally wouldn't, adventure!

    I'm on a self-exploration journey myself as I was in a similar situation to yours. I realized I needed time to find out who I am, what I want, and what makes me happy before I can share my life and be happy with someone.

    Thought it'd be obvious but don't get into any romantic relationships during this journey.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I have seen quite a lot, have many things I enjoy in life. But when it comes to women/girls, I never really felt that someone is special and irreplaceable. I believe that I could be happy with this girl.

      I have heard that usually one of the partners is giving up something and doesn't love as strong as the other. My mother never really fell for my father as I have heard from her. He just run after her a lot and eventually she gave in. But she is happy with life and now still living happily together for almost 40 years and 6 children raised.

      I'm very similar to my mother in many ways, our mindset is more or less the same. Maybe it's just how I am. I can't even imagine myself being deeeep in love unless I have spent a lot of time with that person. Maybe I will grow to love this girl even more once we start to move on

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