Is it normal to be too screwed up to care about other people's petty drama

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I have been diagnosed with PTSD over a very close death experience 6 years ago. I moved out of the town I used to live in just to escape the feelings and drama I was feeling after a horribily abusive relationship I was in. And it seems I just got out in time before heroin and suicides began taking alot of lives of my old friends. I'm 25 and I know thriteen people who have died over things like this 6 years latter I got involved with one closest female friends we never hadany thing official but she choose to get married to a guy after 5 months of dating him. It's her life it her choice I know I don't have any control over her decisions but I did ask her to maybe sit down and talk with me just to work out the feelings her decision brought up. She didn't and I kind of lost my temper with her after I caught her in a lie over it. Things like this happen I know they suck but it's nothing that can't be dealt with. The daybe fore her wedding which I wasn't invited to I learned about an old friend of mine back home who was burtally murdered by another guy I knew since childhood. The killers dad then killed himself because he was too disstrest over what his son did. Much of my focus and stress has been poured over this and I really stopped caring about BS girl problems. Things back home have put things in perspective on what is really worth sheding tears over. This girl I know works in a bar I hangout at all the time I gave it three weeks for her to cool down and my attitude about it is that any dissagreements we had are water under the bridge because I now have bigger fish to fry. The bouncer at the bar she tends at told me I'm no longer allowed on her shift because she's pissed off at me still. I'd like to salvage our friendship because we were close and losing all my old friends makes me value my friends more.I kind of don't care about her doing that because there are real problems in life and I know what they look like. However I feel soo dead inside over what happened to my old friends. Am I too hardend over it is my friendship with someone I'm close to worth saving? What should I do.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    You need to accept that it's ok to grieve, it's ok to feel hurt, it's ok to feel these feelings and there's nothing wrong with feeling upset, considering what you have been through.

    It seems to me, that after dealing with horrible things, you have come to realize what is REALLY important, and how insignificant petty conflict and fighting is. Just let it go and move on with your life. For many people, it takes difficult experiences like this to learn that petty drama is not worth the pain.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    I don't care about other people's drama, either. But not because I'm screwed up. I just don't care for other's drama.

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