Is it normal to be too honest with yourself?

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I have this really bad thing where I don't like to be fake like "think positive" when really I just feel like sh*t. I can't just go on and continue my day if I'm just not feeling it. Idk how people are able to consume positivity when they feel negativity. I feel like I am lying to myself and therefore, I rather just be depressed when I am depressed because that's more real. For example, I am trying to move on from a break up and I'm getting all this advice like I deserve better so you'll find it. Or show him what he lost. Okay well...I can do that but at the end of the day even if I look happy and I'm laughing, I still want him and that will make me genuinely happy. Or its like losing a family member and no matter how many times you are having a good time its not really how you feel deep inside. You feel hurt, bummed, sad, etc. I wish I can show my ex what he lost and pretty much use him as a motivation to become better like look I'm doing amazing without you but come on, I am just being in denial because in the back of my head I wish I was still with him. I think it's fake and because I am too honest with myself, I'm usually sad. I can't let myself be happy if thats not how I am really feeling. I feel like its delusional to think positive when youre just not feeling it. What if I think I'm happy but I'm really not and just being delusional fooling myself? That's why I find it hard.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Try to not live in denial and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Treat this personal crisis the same as you would a death. Grieve the loss, nurse your broken heart then let it go and move on with your life. Don't over analyze this whole mess or waste time obsessing about your ex. He's moved on and probably isn't thinking about you now it's your turn to do the same.

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  • karlden
    9 years ago

    I understand your comments but..... relying on others for your inner strength or healing is not a good idea. Find another outlet for your emotions. Walk, bike, anything outside away from memories. Remember the saying... "time heals"? Well, it's true. After a bit of time, your inner voice will return back to normal.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Exactly, I feel the same.

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  • n41rb
    9 years ago

    I dare you to do the whole opposite of what you just wrote there. See how that goes.

    Or not...

    It's actually not lying to yourself or being fake. If you're getting all this advice and you feel weird about it, just follow your heart and do whatever that pleases you.

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with being sad. Sit by the water and cry in solitude if you want to. Bask in the melancholy. Emotions weren't given to us to be ignored.

    Your friends may just be uncomfortable with your change in attitude and are simply telling you the best thing they can think of to say. People usually feel obligated to say something and they are just unconsciously trying to make things normal again. They also may have missed you while you were occupied with the relationship. Just tell them nicely what you need.

    Being positive isn't just being happy all the time, it is seeing the good in a rotten situation. You don't necessarily have to be happy to understand that there is beauty in the breakdown. It's a bittersweet symphony, this life. Knowing that something good can come from something that seems really bad will help you get through this phase.

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  • EccentricWeird
    9 years ago

    Is it normal I refuse to read walls of text?

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