Is it normal to be too agressive but your words dont mean what you meant?

I guess its bad cause everyones too serious now. But i like to be funny and joke around to the point where what i say might come out rude or mean and i did not mean it that way. Its just the way i am. Im also honest sometimes brutally and ive warned people before. But those who dont really know me probably think im being rude and mean because of something i said. IT sucks cause i didnt mean for it to come out like that my words just come out without me clearly explaining myself. SO everyone gets the wrong idea and everyone hates me or think something bad about me, but i really didnt mean it to be mean people need to chill. If they know me, they know im brutally honest, my fam and close friends know that but not the rest. Ill say what i feel sometimes ill hold it in cause it might come out as rude you know its called MANNERS. But umm idn i guess im too direct? im also free-spirited so ill do whatever i feel like doing including saying whatever comes out. Maybe i need some type of control? IDn what do you guys think? And smart, helpful answers please =)

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  • Elorria

    My boyfriend was the same way when we first started dating and a lot of things he would say would come off as quite rude and innapropriate, even though he didn't realize it. I told him that he should just try to understand that some of the things he says can be hurtful to other people and to just think before he talks. Just try to be aware of how others are reacting to your humor and be respectful of their feelings.

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  • D_revolting_enigmaaaaa

    So you are saying that you are an asshole on accident....

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  • when i say it i don't joke i mean it and like i have threatend my sis and i told her i would get a knife..well i did but she took it and started treating me like a baby and said no! babies cant use sharp things o_o if u being agressive but u r just going to say jk or something dont say it then at all i mean wut i say

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    • Truee it gets on my nerves when they say jk but they mean it they just jk so they wont get in trouble. But i mean like sarcasm and it sucks cause i see people can get away with it and usually i dont..idnt get it

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old

    I like what MercedesBenz & Spunklove26 wrote.

    Treat others how you think THEY would like to be treated, not how YOU would like to be treated.

    Nobody likes a douche.

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  • its normal,alot of people are that way. but i think its also a weakness. you should really try to learn to think about what you say and how it will affect people before you say it. i mean, dont be like socially awkward. just know that words can have big consequences, and no matter how "brutally honest" or "free spirited" you are ( those are just excuses), you can always control what you say.

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  • MercedesBenz

    Being that way does not make you unique. Remember that everyone has an opinion. The ones with the loudest voices are not always the correct ones. In fact, some could say the lack of tact is immature.

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  • koifish

    I'm the same.

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  • OgreMatt

    I'm so happy you felt the urge to share that little auto bigraphy with us. Yes it is normal for ppl to not understand or follow social cues. You are one of the many, now why you felt the urge to put it on thi sight is beyond me. Why not ask a real question that you don't answer yourself whilst asking said question?

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  • tori

    I can take sarcasm to a point. Go too far with it and I would drop you. You say you are brutally honest. But remember, that's only your opinion. Someone elses life history gives them what they think is their honest opinion. Just try to take into consideration what other people think. Mull it over in your head. Doesn't mean you have to accept it though.

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  • OhioGirl

    I'm the same way. I am very blunt in speaking and sometimes come across harsh in tone, but I don't mean it. I am the oldest of 5 and just had to be growing up.

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  • Oh yah and i forgot to mention i believe some of my actions look heartless. Im not that easy to hurt im a pretty tough one but i guess it prevents me from maintaining friends

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