Is it normal to be this confused?

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I recently started online dating and only two guys really grabbed my attention. I've only met one of them in real life so far. We have NOT kissed or anything like that. He wants to see me again. The other guy wants to meet me but I am not sure if it's ok to meet this guy also as I don't really want to date multiple guys at once. My dilemma however is that they both have different qualities.

I would love to hear your advice as to what I should do! I cannot seem to think straight...

I am 33yo

Both guys seem very keen to settle down, get married and have kids.

Guy1 (37yo)

Pros:
Very highly educated
Very clever
Very sweet and down to earth, relaxed
Very domesticated
Cons:
Has a dog and sometimes shares his bed with it (I've never had pets, am not a fan of dogs, and am mildly OCD)
Is from different background to mine and I wonder if our cultures will clash. So far it looks like he is religious, which I am not a fan of
Does not come from the same state as we are living in now, but has been living here for 4 years. His family lives interstate (if he ever decided to move back, it would be a deal breaker for me)
His job is very demanding and he often works extremely long hours

Guy2 (one I have not yet met!) 31yo
Pros:
Highly educated
His working hours match that of mine
He has no pets
Same background as mine, same morals, beliefs, customs etc
Cons:
Possibly over confident and a bit up himself
I think he lives with his mum, so probably a mummy's boy and not domesticated

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Based on 7 votes (5 yes)
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Comments ( 15 )
  • snarkygirl
    8 years ago

    I don't think this is the right site for you. You'll get a few dumb answers and some trolling but no good advice. My advice is don't hook up online so...,

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    You are a 33 year old girl (obviously not a woman yet) and you come on here for dating advice? Where have you been since you turned 18, a convent?
    Come on please. This is YOUR life you are talking about here, is it not? We don't know you or these guys. It's time to make a decision that YOU can live with.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thanks. I was in a relationship for 14 long years....

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Then you really should know exactly what you are seeking this time around, don'tca think? lol

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  • shuttuppnerddplz
    8 years ago

    No.....i dont think dating sites on the internet are useful...plz don't focus on men but your life and hobby! Then I'm sure your man will come naturally!!

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  • Another_Account
    8 years ago

    I stopped reading at "neither of the guys are perfect (surprise surprise).

    Another modern woman who is sealing her own fate in the dating game by seeking out a "perfect" mate.

    Hilarious

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  • IMissMary
    8 years ago

    Reading this I am Soooooo glad I am out of the dating game.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    What is this, a catalog? And everybody on the internet dating scene tells the truth about themselves? You don't really know either or these men and we don't know them or you: flipping a coin would be about as useful as coming on here expecting other people to help you make up your mind!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      We live in a smallish city, so I have already been able to verify them both on LinkedIn and Facebook. Also, one of them dated my relative many years ago.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        And you believe everything you read on facebook or linkedin? Or IIN for that matter?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Which parts do you think are unbelievable?

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          • Ellenna
            8 years ago

            Parts of what? Do you really expect me to give you a list of everything on here I find unbelievable?

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