Is it normal to be stuck on a your ex and feel weak for them?

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Together for 2 years broke up 2 years ago and since we got back again few times when he calls me. I keep giving him a chance wishing this time it will last it will work but we have sex hang out for a while and he calls it off I end up crying and depressed and weeks after the cycle repeats. Hes my first and only one I been with maybe thats why but hes not a bad person he cheated on me a few times but thats what men do when they are young he still loves me I dont blame him. I start believing I will never be with anyone else because the affect my ex has on me and I dont even get attracted to others I always yearn for him even if I meet someone great. I dont talk about this to anyone they will not understand. Do you think men can change after a few years like in the late twenties and be more committed and loyal?

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Based on 19 votes (11 yes)
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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    He cheated on you more than once, but it's okay because he's young? You can't get over someone if you're constantly defending that person.

    Cut all communication with him, and understand that there are no excuses for cheating and using someone. Build up your self-esteem, and realize that you deserve way better.

    Believe me, when you find a guy who treats you with respect and genuine love, it'll feel like you're having a new and better first, and it'll be much better than what you had with this guy. You just got to date smarter.

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  • Bake34
    8 years ago

    Once a dog always a dog

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    It sounds like you have no self respect at all. You let him walk all over you, dump you and hurt you and still let him in your life? Grow a backbone and tell the asshole to get lost, for good!
    You deserve someone who will treat you better than that.

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    • Myghoul2099
      8 years ago

      she actually sounds like a sweet girl. you sound like a bitch.

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      • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
        8 years ago

        However you interpret thegypsysailor comment you cannot disagree with the advice. Do you want to see a sweet girl getting screwed over by a total asshole for the next two years? He's using her for sex and she comes running thinking how wonderful he is. From a female perspective it's sad, pathetic and totally avoidable with a modicum of self respect

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        • Myghoul2099
          8 years ago

          did it ever occur to you she isnt telling us the whole story? because i'm sure there's a reason he cheated even if it's not a good one she probably was flirting around and he gave up trying.

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          • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
            8 years ago

            No! Really?!?! I though the Internet ran on an honour system. You can't trust anyone these days. Sigh.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Oh sweety, if you only knew.
        Anyway, what's it to you? You're not gonna get laid by either of us, no matter how much brown nosing you do.

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        • Myghoul2099
          8 years ago

          i was going to start flirting but anybody who uses the term "brown nosing" is too old for me.

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  • bubblyblonde1999
    8 years ago

    I can understand where you are coming from. I'm still hung all over my ex and one of my good friends is with him. But I believe that after a certain age, the guy matures and you can trust him again.

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