Is it normal to be stuck? (advice needed desperately)

I feel horrible.

I had lied to my boyfriend for months about having people in the past. I told him I was sexually active, that I had done everything he had done, ect. I felt extremely pressured by him, since he had previously done all these things. He used to be a player and had all the girls he wanted. I had told him the truth, and it's been downhill from there. He told me to get all the thoughts out of his head and prove to him I loved him and I wasn't a hoe. He mentioned if I really loved him I would know what to do, but i dont. I know I love him, and I really want to help him. I made a huge mistake by lying to him in the first place.

During our relationship, he also broke up with me. During this break period, I surrounded myself with friends (a lot of them being coincidentally male) I was not aware but apparently, one of them had called me "his hoe". This was not the case, as I did not engage in any activity with ANY of the male friends I had during that time. When we got back together, my boyfriend has been thinking I slept with a bunch of men during our break and has that image in his head. He told me its up to me to get it out. PLEASE HELP

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  • EchoMaster

    End the relationship with the boyfriend. He's a punk. What you did in the past or during the time he abandoned your relationship so he could hook up elsewhere is none of his business. Or don't end the relationship with the boyfriend. He probably wants to be the one to end it anyway so if you wish go ahead and let him use you up first. And stop hanging out with males that describe any female as 'his hoe'. They have mothers why do they think like that? Sorry this punk has temporarily captured your heart, but the more temporary you make it the better you will be in the long run.

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  • Susancream

    your boyfriend sounds like a fucking baby, so what you're not sexually experienced. fuck him.

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  • SwickDinging

    Dump him. You can do better

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  • RoseIsabella

    Dump your manipulative, piece of shit boyfriend!

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  • Ellenna

    The only person who can get this out of his head is he himself. Anything you did with anyone before you became involved with him is none of his business and you're not responsible for what some moron called you.

    Your boyfriend sounds immature and controlling and I suggest you break it off.

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  • kelili

    End the relationship. It's already complicated with you lying to him (which I don't condemn by the way) and everything that has happened next. He knows that there is no way for you to prove that you are love him and that you are not a hoe except telling him so but he won't believe you.

    For your own sake, leave him. This relationship is becoming toxic for both of you.

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  • Yes I lied to him, and i didn't have sex with anyone else but him. Im not seeking validation, simply seeking advice.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Dump him.

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  • JD777

    This relationship is broken. He probably will never trust you again. Move on and be honest next time.

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