Is it normal to be so sensitive but hide it really well?

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Im starting to think maybe my bf is more sensitive than I thought and I need to not let this "mask" of his make me think he has no feelings. I have a feeling that he carries this attitude like nothing can affect him to protect himself. Maybe he just doesn't want to look so vulnerable to me. He told me he has gotten hurt before by a girl but like almost 10 yrs ago. I think hes just trying to prevent from getting hurt by not investing too much too fast but also cause hes just overall a sensitive person and because hes a guy, he needs to be extra protective. so now whenever I try to be tougher on him cause I feel like he needs to see he can't just do whatever he wants, I think maybe he is actually stressed out or hurt by all of this but his mask is making me think its not affecting him at all, therefore, I act more tough with him. Is it possible or normal for someone especially for a guy to really hide his real self which is softer and more sensitive than he's portraying? If so, should I just swallow my pride cause really at the end, Im the stronger one in this relationship and hes the one who needs more intimacy?

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  • SandyGun5555
    8 years ago

    Fuck you.

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  • Darktown
    8 years ago

    What is wrong with you, stop thinking so much about him and focus on your own damn self. You sound extremely insecure. He can do whatever the fuck he wants. Leave him alone.

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    • flamer180
      8 years ago

      She sounds like she just cares about him. Nothing wrong with caring.

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      • Darktown
        8 years ago

        Thats not caring. What she is doing is trying to bring him down to her level of insecurity. She is frustrated by the fact that he actually is more secure and unaffected than her, so she is deliberately trying to damage him.

        It won't work, and the more she tries to do this it will just irritate him and drive him away. Sounds like thats where this relationship is already headed anyways.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Yeah I just care. Nothing you said is true and never heard of before. Irrelevant.

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          • PenisBalls_McMurphy
            8 years ago

            All you are trying to do is change him. This whole post is just more evidence that most women have no absolutely no concrete idea what they want in a relationship. If he flip flopped to what you described you'd complain he's too sensitive.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              8 years ago

              Nah. You're jumping to conclusions and stereotypes which is what closed-minded people do. Think outside of the box for once and realize not everyone especially not every woman is the same. Omg shocker. I just care a lot and want to come down to how can I better my relationship. I want us to grow better. Sometimes people have good intentions underneath it all like I do. Omg another shocker.

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            • Darktown
              8 years ago

              Could not have said it better myself.

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  • Fall_leaves
    8 years ago

    Does it really matter? He has feelings just because he doesn't wear them on his sleeve like you doesn't mean they don't exist.

    Just some advice if you feel like you have to manipulate your partner so much maybe it's not a healthy relationship. You should be nice to him period, regardless of your insecurities over him taking advantage of you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I don't see how you think I'm manipulating him. The point is I care a lot and wanna make things better. I have good motives not bad ones. Maybe I am insecure but it's cause I care a lot, which is not a bad thing. All I needed to know is if its most likely my bf is one of those who hide their feelings or don't show them as much so I know how to handle situations better. No manipulation here.

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      • Darktown
        8 years ago

        You are the only one who is hiding their feelings. Have you even TOLD your boyfriend what youve told us here? Because if youre not hoding anything thenyou shouldhave no problem tell him about your concerns and how you have been changing your behavior around him to be "tougher" lately to manipulate and test him

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  • whaleworld
    8 years ago

    It's what society has taught guys is acceptable as a form of expressing their masculinity - brute strength and no emotions. it's common if fucked up for this to happen. It can give guys a lot of issues when they can't communicate.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    I'm very good at hiding pain. Like i'm in an immense amount of pain right now but no body knoes

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    I think in general women are more open with those kinds of emotions than men because we're brought up differently. In certain cases, it can be looked down upon if a man is too sensitive. Case in point, you will see women cry, but rarely will men be seen crying.

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  • LittleGirlViolentlySodomized
    8 years ago

    "Im the stronger one in this relationship and hes the one who needs more intimacy?" That's exactly what it sounds like. You have a limp wristed flamer boyfriend that's putting off his responsibility as The Man in the relationship on you from what I gather. Do you understand me WOMAN?

    www.youtube.com/watch?v=KPes6Kwi0ac

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  • flamer180
    8 years ago

    Hard to say. Im not that guy.

    But yes, guys can hide their emotions.

    It's not a bad thing, or good. It's just whatever.

    But if you really want to see more of his emotions, then you can try to help him, but be nice about helping him.

    But like I said, hard to say, cause I'm not in this situation with all the details lol

    In poker it can be good to hide your emotions XD haha
    Really just depends lol

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Yeah I just wanna make sure so I can be more careful with what i say and do. I dont want to start being really nice to him and he's actually not that sensitive so he begins to walk all over me.

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      • PenisBalls_McMurphy
        8 years ago

        You're an idiot and I hope he dumps you.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          And I hope you get a life and then you'll stop being so ignorant and such a hater. Trying liking yourself better. You sound like you have anger inside. Good luck.

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          • PenisBalls_McMurphy
            8 years ago

            No, I don't. And that's just a poor attempt to bait me. Good luck trying to change your boyfriend to what you want him to be. Because the point of being nice to someone is so that they return the favor, we can't have boyfriends walking all over you now can we.

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