Is it normal to be so clingy with my boyfriend?

stage 5 clinger

I think it's understandable that you're clingy because he's probably a great guy. But you should back off if you want your relationship to last.

I think you need to strike a balance. I've been out with girls who completely ignored me for days, even weeks. I suspect it was a game to keep me keen. It didn't work. I lost interest in them because it seemed like they had no interest in me. When someone lets you know that they're thinking about you now and again, and that they'd like some attention from you, it's nice. It usually makes me react in the right way and want to give them some attention. It deepens the bond. You know they care.

I think you might be overdoing it, though. And you run the risk of suffocating him and him wanting more and more time away from you. It's just a theory but I'm wondering if you're suffering with your self-esteem and, now you're in a relationship, you're treating the "relationship" as self-worth. When you're not in contact with him, something seems missing, or maybe you feel yourself to be less somehow. It's difficult to get a picture via words on a page, but you sound like a nice girl. You come across that way. You have to realise that you're valuable too, as an individual. That you're bringing your own qualities to the relationship, rather than the relationship is giving you qualities you didn't previously have.

I also think you're going to take your first relationship break-up very hard indeed. For the sake of this relationship, you have to back off a bit and see what level of contact is a good compromise between what you want and what he wants. Also, talk to him about it. Maybe make a joke of how much you contact him and see how he reacts.

Good luck, by the way. I hope everything works out the way you want it too.

i think youre a crazy whos gone coo coo bananas and just chill woman!!!

JUST CHILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Most people don't like a clingy lover but I like it. A lot.

It sounds like you've been through a lot. People who have been hurt and have few individuals they trust develop unhealthy relations to other people because those few they do trust become their whole world. I think it's normal in this situation, but should be discussed with a counsellor, as it has the potential to backfire and hurt you, and probably your boyfriend. Take care.

normal for first BF.. but u will totally suffocate him and he will want to leave you but be afraid to tell you.

Wow ono that's kind of rude. I'm not stalking him. We've been together for 3 years now

He is gonna dump you. You should see a therapist. ORRRR To avoid 'having your heart broken' why not talk to your friends? Have fun without him.
He didn't go to a movie, he was avoiding you. Eventually it will get worse and he'll stop answering your texts. He'll shorten phone calls and conveniently be busy whenever you call or request a date. Then he will be talking to more girls and complaining more. Finally he will cheat and dump your clingy ass.
Call him at least every two days or so if you must. Just get a life outside of your boyfriend.

Are you dating him or stalking him?
You have a real chance of scaring the guy away because he'll end up feeling harassed.

Och pet - you're just young. You need to get busy with other things so that you 'bring something to the party' if you know what I meam. You will have more interesting conversations with him if you have something new to add each day and it will let him see you as an interesting person. He will feel lucky that you can fit him into your busy schedule, otherwise you will come across as boring and clingy. He seems to be getting on with his life so you should do the same.