Is it normal to be sick of having a single friend to the point of evasiveness?

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I only have one friend, and the thing that bothers me alot is because since he's my only friend, I've become way too attached to him. Every single week I try to spend time with him, but about 95% of the time he doesn't express any interest in me.

It's gotten to the point where I stopped contacting him, and EVEN when he contacts me to hang out, I've turned him down each time. I just don't want to get close to him much anymore, because I feel I'll get attached again and fear dissapointment of being turned down.

Is it normal to feel this way?

It's normal to feel that way. 32
It's normal. I would feel the same way if I we're you. 30
It's not normal. 15
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  • BigKahunaBurger
    13 years ago

    I think it's all about how you are looking at it. You are assuming he is rejecting you, but try to think of one of the many other reasons why he doesn't want to hang out.. maybe he's busy, or not feeling great, or has a family commitment, or has to share his time between you and other friends? If he's got a circle of friends other than you, you should try and get him to introduce you to them, there are bound to be other people he knows who have some of the the same things in common. Hopefully you'll find your social network gradually expanding and you'll feel less "attached" to certain people.

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    • asdf90091
      13 years ago

      You read my mind for the most part. I went through a similar stage with a friend of mine. He's probably not trying to reject you, he just has other friends. It's fine to be attached, just not to the point of obsession. One of those times when you hang out, just be honest with him and tell him how you feel. If he can't be friends with you because of that then he's not really a friend.

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  • loving
    12 years ago

    Most 'friends' are like this!

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  • evadine
    12 years ago

    Relax, just be friends with them. If you are bothering them, they will probably say so.

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