Is it normal to be self-conscious about things but find them normal on others?

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I'm a teenage girl who strongly supports body positivity and acceptance. I'm generally okay with my appearance, but that doesn't mean I don't get insecure from time to time. My imperfections are things like a big nose, above average height for a girl, a bit of chubbiness and non-flawless skin.
The strange thing is, while I'm critical of those things in myself, they don't bother me at all in other people. I think beauty comes in a lot of different shapes and sizes. I recognise blemishes and imperfections as completely normal and not unattractive at all.
Do you think it's normal to be self-conscious about certain things but find them normal on others?

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    Yes, that is very good that you are like that about others. Don't be so hard on yourself, I'm sure you are a beautiful person :)

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    • Anime7
      11 years ago

      this

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  • KaviTavi
    7 years ago

    I have similar issues. I think it's because certain flaws I have just look better on other people. An example is my face shape. Round faces look good if you have big eyes, a small nose and your lower face isn't too wide. I don't fit that criteria, so I don't think my round face looks good on me.

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  • helpmeimafreak123
    11 years ago

    For the record, I am the same way except I am only 5 feet tall. If you want to feel bad about yourself, try being short first. It sucks.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    This is a skewed thought process, out of touch with reality. Everyone has these modes of perception, it's why everyone views the world differently and incorrectly. It both helps and hinders; ego, values, body image, confidence, empathy, attraction, logic and reason.

    Because of this, people often see more flaws in themselves than others do.

    A girl becomes bulimic because she can't even look in a mirror and see that she's thin is an extreme example of this skewed off and delusional state.

    It's very normal and effects everyone in many ways.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I feel the same way.

    I look at myself in the mirror and feel disgusted sometimes because my thighs touch, I have fat on my hips, my arms aren't toned and I don't have a flat stomach. My hair is a fine texture and is difficult to style and my skin is far from flawless. I have a bulbous nose and my face looks weird.

    However, other people's flaws don't stick out much to me unless they are extremely obvious, and even then, I don't pay much attention. I guess we're too close to ourselves to see ourselves clearly.

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