Is it normal to be scared of the fact that some people could fantasize about me?

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Even if the person who would fantasize about me would never ever tell me about their sexual fantasies, the thought of someone fantasizing about me is still kind of scary.

Yes, people fantasize about many people, which is normal, and thank goodness many (if not most) people don't talk about those fantasies. But it's still scary to understand that someone could fantasize about me, even if they don't tell me about it, and I guess that being aware of this makes me slightly anxious.

I was sexually harassed by a 36 year old man when I was 13.
I wonder if this is one of the reasons why I'm kind of scared of the fact that someone could fantasize about me?

By the way, this post isn't about bragging.
I'm not bragging in this post nor being like "omg, me is so pretteeyy, i kno millionz of boyz are fantasizing sexual things about meehh" in any other way.
So I appreciate it if you don't accuse me of doing something what I'm actually not doing. Thank you.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    4 years ago

    Discomfort and disgust are normal, fear is a bit extreme but understandable given your past. Are you scared that these fantasies will lead to real life harassment?

    For the record I think anyone accusing you of “bragging” is completely missing the point. I’m not particularly good looking myself and have received messages eagerly telling me about disgusting fantasies revolving around me and even starred in some woefully poorly written erotica. It doesn’t feel like a compliment, it’s just objectifying and gross.

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  • controversy
    4 years ago

    Not normal.

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  • Nikclaire
    4 years ago

    What's scary about it?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I have no idea either.

      However, I was once sexually harassed by one 36 year old man when I was 13. I guess I'm just very traumatized or something.

      I'm also a bit of a prude person. But not as prude as some Bible Belt Christian.

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      • mia500
        4 years ago

        You have to go on and live your life! It’s happened to more women and girls than you think

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    • Doesnormalmatter
      4 years ago

      My thought excatly. I think this concept should be arousing and flattering if anything.

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      • Euterpe
        4 years ago

        If it's someone you don't want to think about you that way, it's disgusting. I'd be horrified to know some old or unhygienic man thought about me that way. I sort of understand what OP is feeling.

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        • Doesnormalmatter
          4 years ago

          Are you female? Its makes mote sense for women and I as a male cannot relate here. There isn't a woman on this planet I would be adversly affected by if the fapped to me everyday, even if they told me about it.

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          • Euterpe
            4 years ago

            Yes, I am female. I think that's what's different. Of course, the act doesn't harm me. It's just uncomfortable and if we learned I think we'd feel violated. If it was an ugly woman would you still be fine with it?

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            • Doesnormalmatter
              4 years ago

              Yes I would still be fine with it, and even still flattered, just not as much as if she was hotter.

              But now is the part of the show where I admit to being biased. Not only am I male. I am a young male, with a far above average sex drive(from what I can tell) and that takes like 6 different testosterone boosting supplements which have 'increased sex drive' listed as a side effect, or even the main goal of the product. I was suprised by this post but in retrospect, it does make some sense for females to not like being fantasized about. Omg I learned something new on iin! Either way tho, worring as much as OP is about this matter is not worth it. Not like you can stop people from fantasizing about you either.

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  • Zipppy
    4 years ago

    I don't really know or understand why that would scare you to be honest, there are many things to be scared about in the world, but that is not one of them.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    I actually have a sincere appreciation for your fear, and discomfort in regards to this issue! I honestly find myself thinking I didn't give other people permission to think of me in such a way. Some people may not appreciate, or care for my way of thinking, but oh well. I recognize that my thinking about this issue is unreasonable, because I'm powerless over what other people think of me. I have honestly wished, especially when in a situation where I've been harassed in the workplace, that I wish I could be a shapeshifter, and change my appearance to something hideous, and terrifying whenever someone whose attention I don't appreciate stares at me, or harasses me.

    I feel like I'm going to get some hate for my comments, but it's just how I've always felt. I also would have loved to have turned myself into a gorgon whenever some jerks on the street would catcall me. I honestly feel a great deal of peace with being a middle aged woman now, because I feel like I get more respect. I don't know what kind of selfish, egotistical thinking fuels the sentiment that some people, especially men, but some women as well think that others should be flattered, or grateful for unwanted attention.

    I support you, and your point of view!

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    • palehorse
      4 years ago

      I respect your opinion, but nobody needs your (or anyone's) permission to think about anything. I don't believe in thought crimes.

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  • Euterpe
    4 years ago

    I don't think the men in these comments understand how unwanted these fantasies are unless you love them. I agree with you OP. I feel similar.

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    • Euterpe
      4 years ago

      The person who down voted is a creep and a NiceGuy™

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I see.

      Welp, I can't help it if someone has fantasies about me.
      I can't really forbid them from having, because thought policing is something what communists do, and I'm not a communist at all.
      Being fantasized about is kind of freaky though, but well, the world is full of things that are pretty unsettling, yet at the same time totally normal, and I guess... harmless?

      What annoyed me about this comment section is that at least 1 guy seemed to think that I'm like bragging about myself or being too self confident or something like that. What's wrong with self confidence anyways? Not to mention that people have different preferences.

      But well, this whole post was not about bragging anyways. This post was about expressing a certain concern.

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  • SKDM007
    4 years ago

    there are many fucked up people in this world, there will be those who fantasize but others who think of worse things to do to you

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  • raisinbran
    4 years ago

    Sorry, but you've probably been added to a couple guy's fap libraries just by posting this.

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  • trexagireve
    4 years ago

    So the answer for a cum tribute to you would be probably "no"

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  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
    4 years ago

    I'm with you on this, but it wouldn't scare me. If anything thing it would piss me off, thankfully i'm no one's reason to masturbate.

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    Guys have lists that they whack off to. Your image can be one of many that flits through his head.

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