Is it normal to be scared of saying "i love you?"

I think its pretty normal but for my reasons? Not sure. I honestly can't help myself and acknowledge that I love this man. No he's not officially mine because were just dating for now but you can love someone uve been w for a short time than someone uve been w longer. I've been with him for more than a year but you kno the very beginning i swear I saw the guy I drew in my head that I've always wanted. As we kept talking, everything he would say or do felt comfortable like I knew him before because these were the qualities even the smallest things that I imagined my ideal guy would have. He has said the same thing too bout feeling like he knew me already. So from the moment I saw him to now, it went from infatuation to being in love w him. My mom even thinks I love him and as a mom she wouldn't just think that of anyone involved w me. She can see it in me when I talk about him from the ups and downs I go through w him. Friends can't believe how soft I have become since being w him because for the first time, I just genuinely care about someone as a stranger.

But at the end of the day, were not serious, we haven't done too many serious things, we just like being together and that's it. I want to tell him finally that I love him...but I feel or fear that he's gonna look at it like I THINK I'm in love but I'm not and I'm just being those silly pple who will consider anything as "love." Nooo I want him to kno I don't just love anyone not even my last bf who truly loves me. I want him to know how special he is to me that IDC if he tears me apart like the coldplay song "sky full of stars." I cry every time I hear that song because its exactly how I feel about him. He's worth the pain I've had from him. "Really like you" is just not enough for me, I feel like there's more in me I have to let out. I don't necessarily fear him not saying it back because well I don't expect him to actually and its fine. I just fear him not taking it seriously.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    You know, the main complaint about people saying "I love you" is them saying it very early on in the relationship, like teenagers knowing/being with each other for like, two weeks and saying "I love you" to each other. After about a year, you should seriously know and have a really good idea of whether or not you love him. If you two spend enough time together, you should know him well enough to know whether or not you love it.

    And who knows? Maybe he feels the same way. I'd go ahead and say it already.

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  • Nokiot9

    It doesn't scare me persay, but it bothers me. Unless I really really feel it at the time, I won't say it. Even if it's true or I'm supposed to say it, I won't unless I feel that butterfly tightness in my chest/stomach and warmth rush across my skin. It's a term that is far over used and way misused

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    • Yeah I agree. There have been times when I feel like saying it but I can only say it through text and I want to tell him in person. And sometimes in person, I want to say but I don't feel that "butterfly tightness" you're talking about so I don't say it. So all I know is I do love him but I want to say it at the right moment.

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  • PandaBitch

    You are confused to your own feeling (- -)"

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