Is it normal to be reluctant to break up with my boyfriend even after this...?

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Okay, I'm going to give you a summary of the whole story. I'm sorry, I know it is long, but stay with me here.

I have had psychological issues for quite a while now, such as bipolar disorder and depression problems, and about a week ago I had reached my breaking point. My parents were pressuring me heavily about my declining grades at school, because I normally do extremely well. I had been trying my hardest, but despite my efforts, my grade continued to be bad because it is an extremely hard course. I was getting really stressed out due to the constant reminders to bring my grade up. My parents began to take away everything, such as my phone, my iPod, my time with my boyfriend, etc.

Anyway, I had finally reached my breaking point and I exploded and screamed and yelled and argued and my mom ended up collapsing on the bathroom floor. She began to have seizures caused by her health condition and I broke down sobbing that I needed help. My depression had gotten so bad that each time my parents and I would fight, I would lock myself in my room and scratch up my legs and beat myself up. I hated my own guts.

I was put in a psychiatric rehabilitation center for a week and was forced to miss school. My boyfriend began to worry immensely, but for the wrong reasons. He was concerned that I would try to find someone else there. What kind of person would honestly think I want a mental person?

My mother found the notes he and I had written to each other and pointed out to me that he was manipulative and controlling and was trying to take me over. Now that she explained it to me, some of the things he did added up. He would be the kind of person to get obsessed with me and he also shares many of the same problems that I have. She is concerned that it is an unhealthy relationship and I understand where she is coming from, but I love him with all of my heart and I know it.

Is it normal to be reluctant to leave him because of my love for him, even after all that?

I need positive feedback. Thanks.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    I think that he has put you in a place where you question your self worth no one should ever make you feel this way and by the sounds of it he will keep grinding you down till you can't live without him.

    I say cut your losses and get the hell out of there.

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  • thelife96
    11 years ago

    If you love him then you live him!! Nothing more..

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Upon close inspection every person in that story sounds manipulative and deceitful with self centered hidden agendas.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I read this and saw nothing wrong with the relationship between you and your boyfriend. You both sound a little insecure. Sure you're upset cause he seemed more worried about you finding someone else apposed to your actual health, but in a way it shows he doesn't want to lose you. Your parents sounded like the real problem to me. You have to tell them how much they are making things harder on you and that who you date is none of their business. I don't think your boyfriend sounds perfect, but no offense to you, but you sound about on the same level as him. I don't think it would hurt to keep dating him. You need to have a heartfelt talk with your parents though.

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    You need to be sure that your mom isn't just putting ideas in your head because she doesn't like him. Only you can know what's right for you, not your mom.

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    • kelili
      11 years ago

      I don't agree with you at all. I think that the OP's mum is quite a sensible person and that as a good mother she's trying to protect her child.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    The only surprising part of this story was how you said your grades were bad because the course is hard, school is fuckin easy as shit. If you struggle at school you have no chance in the real world. Fuck both your Mum and boyfriend, they both sound like pieces of shit. Do what you wanna do and don't bother listening to anyone else.

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