Is it normal to be pissed off at my parents in this situation?

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Okay so my parents are an absolute trainwreck. I'm pretty sure of it, my boyfriend's absolutely POSITIVE on it, I just figured I'd ask an unbiased party.

To start off they're racist. Like super racist. Like "Hitler wasn't a bad guy" racist. (Literally I'm not making this shit up I grew up hearing about how the holocaust was a lie fabricated by the "evil, evil jews") Not to mention intolerant to gay people and sexist all around.

Fast forward a few years after the initial clusterfuck childhood... (caused by being raised in a weird dystopian fantasy world where the holocaust was a lie, anyone who wasn't white was sub human and as a girl the best I could hope for in life was marrying some well off old "superior" male and getting "protected and taken care of")

I'm trying to make it through college, but everywhere I turn my financial aid needs tax records from my parents who never fail to just... not get that done. And if they don't provide, my tuition doesn't get paid (and the community service I did for it goes down the drain). I had to take a semester off because of it and they JUST got it taken care of last week (the END of the semester I had to take off. This was due almost a year prior)

I'm still living at home because I can't pay for college and living expenses at the same time (without putting myself in debt), this would not have been an issue if my parents put away a college fund for me like I begged them to since I was 10. They made some pretty good money (until this month when my dad failed a drug test... after putting us in debt with his spending sprees at the bars and buying cocaine).

So, is it normal to be pissed and just not want to deal with them anymore or am I overreacting? Because they've always been like this and I'm used to it but my boyfriend is convinced my parents are insane.

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  • VinnyB
    8 years ago

    Other then validating your belief that your parents aren't the best people, and you should know better than I, I don't really understand what you want anyone to say about this.

    You can either put yourself in a situation where you don't need their support, even if that means putting your degree on hold, or you have to deal with them. There are no alternate choices here.

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  • Idk12364
    8 years ago

    The old sons of a bitch

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  • Idk12364
    8 years ago

    My legal advice is to go to court and choose a different family member to live with, perhaps a uncle or aunt they are always there for you because thats what i did my mother mistreated me insanely like im talkin about givin me Guinness beer at the age of 11
    I was told i got drunk that day and passed out i have never seen em since

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  • umph
    8 years ago

    Your parents do not have the duty to pay for your studies. However, they provide food and shelter for you, which is normal.
    Their political / philosophycal views are not your concern. You should not judge them.
    And all of you should stop paying for education. Just go to a free, government sponsored college. In my country, education of all levels is free as it should be! Organize and demand the same from your corrupt government!

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  • Kamsg
    8 years ago

    I think it's normal for you to be pissed by your parents as you may have certain expectation of what the parents' responsibilities are as their child.

    However, now it's your responsibility to make things work for you and your family. I always believe that everything we do, be it using drugs, watching porns or any other things that is destructive to us, has certain purpose. This will include what your dad has been doing, i.e. spending money on drinks and cocaine. You may perhaps want to talk to your dad about this. Most of the time it's because of an unmet need/expectation.

    I believe everything should be "repaired" from the smallest "unit", in this case is you, and your family.

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  • Redcoats
    8 years ago

    Your parents aren't insane, but I'd say grossly mislead and uneducated....no, no, fuck it, they're insane. If you can put up with it, stay with them until college is finished, if not I wish you luck in getting a loan and getting out of their toxic presence.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    I don't know if they're insane or not but I wouldn't want to be living with them, let alone be financially dependent on them.

    But sorry, I have no suggestions for you: how long do you still have to go in college? Presumably then you can get away from them for good

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    • Artemouse
      8 years ago

      I'm not sure I'D use the term insane, just extremely unstable. I have about 2 1/2 years. Ideally I'm saving up to cover my living expenses so I can go away to college for a few semesters, maybe get an apartment instead of the 5,000 dollar dorms (seriously wtf). I might have to bite the bullet on it and just try for a loan. Though hilariously my parents don't want me to do that and fight me on it.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Good luck with the saving to leave and getting a loan, I think they're both really good ideas

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    Well, really you only have yourself to blame here. Your parents are letting you live under their roof, which is allowing you to get through college. Going to college is a good thing, and I see why you're doing it, but it's probably not the right thing to do right now if you can't put up with it. Probably should've thought about getting outta there and living on your own first.

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    • Artemouse
      8 years ago

      Trust me I definitely would have waited, but I have a scholarship that pretty much covers my entire college tuition (I'm responsible for everything else, which is the issue I'm having), the catch is I needed to start right away and I only have four years until I'm out of the program. So it's either get a free ride now, even though I'm not ready, or wait and be tens of thousands of dollars in the hole.

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      • theseeker
        8 years ago

        From what you've explained, your parents sound crazy and I'm not saying that it's your fault that they are. All I'm saying, you shouldn't point the blame at your parents because they didn't put away a college fund for you. Obviously, I don't have the popular opinion here, but that's how I see it.

        ONLY four years? Four years is a long time to be living with crazy people, I would know. If you think you can stick it out for that long, then I honestly hope it all works out for you. However, I get the feeling it's gonna wear on you heavily.

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        • Artemouse
          8 years ago

          while I usually agree with you at least to some extent(though I think if you make more than enough money and then disregard your kids future, you're kinda an asshole and shouldn't breed, college is neither as cheap or as optional as it used to be.) their response was never "It's your responsibility to pave your own way" it was "Don't worry we'll TOTALLY have the money later down the road. You can go anywhere if you want to." I'd much rather they be up front with me because then I could've gotten a job earlier.

          All that being said, I've been doing some math and it turns out I'm gonna have enough to move to another college next year, I just have to save up all I can and I'll be outta this hellhole!

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  • thegyqsysail0r
    8 years ago

    Perhaps I should give ye parents a taste of my salty sea dog.

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