Is it normal to be open about my abuse?

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I have a bunch of burn marks on my forearms (and other places too). When people ask me how it happened, I just straight up tell them the truth. My dad was abusive. He would take hot iron-like items (ie: frying pans and what not) and hit me with them. they are mostly on my arms because I would shield my face from any blow.
Whenever I tell people this, they look at me like Im crazy, that Im lying, that no actual abused person would show their pain. Because I went to a large and diverse high school, most people didn't make fun of me but rather just stayed away from me as a whole. Im not really sure why I share my personal information but even now, being of legal age, I still tell people when they ask. Is this a normal thing to do?

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    Well, they asked so I think it's normal to answer back.

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    I think your just trying to reach out for help which is what most victims of abuse SHOULD be doing.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Was your dad an alcoholic or a drug addict?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I only know of the alcoholism but I wouldn't be surprised if it's both.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      What's the difference though?

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Well, it's kinda hard for me to explain, but hopefully this website can help. I have gone to their meetings both in person and on the phone it's been very helpful to me despite my parents having not been addicts. I would say, however, that I come from a very. dysfunctional family.

        http://www.adultchildren.org/

        You can also check out: http://coda.org/
        http://al-anon.org/?gclid=CIDs1MzRqMMCFdcVgQodjiAA1g

        Stay strong and thanks for speaking out. I'm sorry some people act weird; I think it's because they don't understand and they're uncomfortable. Also there's a possibility that they're from abusive families, but are in denial.

        God bless you. You're awesome and courageous!

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I hope sombody kills him with a hammer.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      A thought that has crossed my mind many times.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        I wouldn't blame you if you did.
        I wrote a tutorial on getting away with murder last month. It's too much to write again so I will link it. http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-to-fantasise-murdering-someone-whos-done-you-wrong-191351/#comment-1928200

        I don't condone killing people without good reason but there are certain people I want off my planet.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Hehe that was good

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    better than not talking about it.

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