Is it normal to be mad at bfs parents for making him how he is

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He is a really great person and perfect to me BUT he has extremely low self esteem, possible personality disorder, to where he doesn't have the self confidence to be with me (?). He has told me about his parents and growing up, and it makes sense why he'd be like this. I feel horrible for him but no matter how I try to help it's not working. He needs professional help but doesn't have the confidence even for that. Sometimes I think of his parents and it makes me mad because they caused him to be this way. is it normal

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    6 years ago

    It's normal. I kind of feel this way about my boyfriends parents as well. His dad was an alcoholic who abused him and he's still traumatized by some of the things that happened to him, most notably when his dad broke his leg(knee) after an argument. He can walk fine, but can't run or stand on it for too long. It slips out of place from time to time so he's always scared of walking on uneven ground. Honestly he wouldn't be so scared, depressed, anxious, or suicidal if he was raised right. His sister has the same mental issues he does except in her case she can't hold a job or maintain friendships because of it. I don't say anything to his dad about it though.

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    If he's now an adult he has a choice: stay as he is and keep holding his parents responsible or take responsibility for doing something about his self-esteem issues. You can't help someone who won't help himself so maybe if you stop trying he'll actually do something about it himself.

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