Is it normal to be in love with someone else

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I am currently in a relationship with someone I have had a crush on since I seen him when I was a senior in high school. However, the other guy (the one I'm in love with) came first, is the same age but I had never met in person. I met him on MySpace IM. I actually talked to him romantically even though he lived 6 hours away. We ended up meeting because he has grandparents who lived near me, and have only met once in the 5 years of knowing each other. He's in college now too which is located only 2 and a half hours from me. He is currently in a relationship though, with someone he says he loves, but for the past year and a half has used me for sexual conversations, etc. Idk why I feel or care so much for him when all I have done is push him away and hurt him a lot even though my intentions were to take care of him. He tells me he cares about me which is hard to believe when he seems careless about my suffering over him, but I care so much that even though we haven't been together, if he ever became blind/deaf/ paralyzed, etc, I would spend the rest of my life taking care of him. I have a personality disorder which abandonment issues play a part which is usually when my care for him spikes. It's toxic for me, I know...and I know this is hard for my boyfriend. But is this at least normal?

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  • DibellaMara
    8 years ago

    I have been in love with the other guy for years and was single when the sexting occured. He was/is taken. I still love him but since I was given the opportunity to finally be with the other guy, I chose to do so. I still think about the guy I'm in love with. I don't know why I care so much...or if it will ever go away. THAT is what I want to know is normal or not. Is that any clearer?

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    Your post was a bit confusing so excuse me if I've mixed something up but;
    You have a relationship and you have fallen for someone else, who for the last 1,5 years have been sexting you even though both of you are in a relationship?

    You are both shitty people and you sort of deserve one another if you ask me.

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