Is it normal to be in love with my best friend( girls advice please)

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I have been in love with my best friend for 2 years know. she dosent feel the same way about me though. She has told me she could have those feelings in the future and just dosent wanna risk the friendship right now for something that may or may not work out. There have been times ive tried to cut ties to her without directly letting her know what i was doing(i dont wanna hurt her in any way). But I just cant do it....everytime I try to i get depressed from not talking to her. At one point I thought I wanted to be over her but now I feel like I never wanna loose the love I have for her even if its a never ending pain. I could chase her to the ends of the earth and never loose these feelings....Any advice or guidance?

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  • Papanda1995
    12 years ago

    Very normal, I have a crush on my best friend now, (I'm a girl, he's a guy it happens) When you spend A LOT of time around some one of the opposite sex (or, if you're gay, the same sex) it's only natural that one or both will start to have feelings for the other. I wouldn't say I'm in love, or at least not yet, but it could work out. And even if it doesn't work out between you two, that doesn't mean it has to be the end of the friendship as well. A break up is only awkward if you make it awkward. So really, there shouldn't be a probem with just trying it out and see if it works

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    im in love with ur best friend too so yeh its normal

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    I was in your exact situation a few months back. Take my advice, move on. It may seem impossible to accomplish but it can be done, however you have to do everything in your power to make it happen. If you don't move on it will only lead to more pain, it's possible she will one day feel the same, but you can't hope that it will happen and miss out on other great opportunities.

    Do anything you can to take your mind off her. Go out with friends, hang with family, workout, just do anything. Best of luck to you, it's a situation everyone hates to be in, hope it works out for you.

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  • Maldetete
    12 years ago

    I've been in that situation, and it's tough. Truthfully this girl will probably never come around, I've heard the same story from frineds of mine too.

    Whta I'd say is if you can't kick the habit (the girl), you can still feel for her, but be open to other girls. Don't close yourself off from other possibilities because you hope that someday this girl will come around.

    I fear that your future will be filled with unhappiness if you continue to hope that she'll come around. If it was meant to happen, it would have by now.

    Sorry bro.

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  • dmbfan16
    12 years ago

    if you truly loved her you would want her to be happy. dont force her to be with you just be the best friend she once had and she will realize how much she loves you

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    • mjh1288
      12 years ago

      I do want her to be happy no matter who shes with, whether its me or anyone else. Thats what i want more than anything, its just hard to show it sometimes

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  • benkay96
    12 years ago

    (I'm A guy dont be fooled) I have a similar scenario and I feel for u and eventually If u don't mess up the friendship and let her come to u it will last longer and be a wonderful relationship

    Here to not be an insensitive douche always

    Big Ben~

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    • SoccerStud88
      12 years ago

      im ur best friend and i dont love u back. sry.

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    • flutterhigh
      12 years ago

      From now on, I am going to finish every letter I write like that.

      Here to not be an insensitive douche always,
      Flutterhigh

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  • pankaj
    12 years ago

    set her free the day she will realise she is in love with u she will surely come back ,if she never comes back means she was never in love with u ...

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    I would move on - dont do this to yourself. There are many women out there! I have had friend guys crush on me many times, and I have not felt the same way (for me, it didnt change) - and when I did try to date one, it ended badly.

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  • 41ph4m413
    12 years ago

    hahaha friendzoned beta

    man up and tell her to fuck you or fuck off

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