Is it normal to be in love with a girl, but attracted to men?

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I guess I've always had a hard time determining my sexuality. For a long time, I hammered the message "you're straight" into my head, but that obviously didn't work because I'm here and queer.

It was simply that at first, and it felt really nice to know it and be rid of confusion. But, I thing I've fallen in love with my roommate and longtime best friend, who happens to be female. There isn't really any physical attraction on my part, but I just feel like I couldn't ever live without her and like I don't want her to be with anyone else. We've even managed to have sex, awkward sex, but sex nonetheless.

She always jokes that she'll be ready for me the day I straighten out. Once or twice, we've even had moments where we exchanged serious "I love you's." And she's always kind of mean to my boyfriends. I'm really hurting her, aren't I?

I know I love her. We do everything together (I mean everything. Eating, getting dressed, sometimes sleeping. Hell, we've even bathed together); there's no one I get along with as well as I get along with her. We've always taken care of each other- providing one another with a bit of stability and warmth, especially when things sucked. I'd do nearly anything for her, but I guess I can't be straight for her. I just feel like I couldn't be satisfied fully with her alone, but I really don't like picturing life without her or seeing her with other men.

What do I do? And aside from being a selfish pig, what does this make me?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It makes you a real human being for loving someone, no matter what gender or religion they are? You should atleast try to see if that relationship will work first of all. All you're doing right now is thinking and what you're thinking can be completely wrong. Try and you'll know for sure.

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  • arseniks
    9 years ago

    This is normal. There is a difference between romantic and sexual attraction. For most people those are the same (they are romantically and sexually attracted to the same gender). But it doesn't have to overlap; this is what you experience. Don't worry, it's completely normal. It might make your life a bit hard though.

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  • datwildcrazykid
    10 years ago

    I know what you mean 100% , I am gay but my best friend (who's a girl) I am legit in love with her. We too do everything together. She knows I'm gay, we haven't ever slept together but we've changed in front of each other. We are always together and I even pictured her being my wife and having my kids (yes I am gay though?) I think she is the most beautiful girl in the world. And I truely love her. She recently got a boyfriend. And it KILLED me inside. I strongly dislike them together...I can't explain this because I'm attracted to men. So I know what you mean.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Stop sucking dicks. Problem solved, thank me later.

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  • blackfish
    12 years ago

    Try it out, if you don't you'll alway question yourself later in life why you didn't. No external or internal factors matters, love is love.

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