Is it normal to be in love and still find other girls physically attractive?

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I am in a serious and committed relationship (talked about marriage seriously). However, I find that I tend to notice the physical attractiveness of other girls more often than I should. There is absolutely NO way that I would even think about cheating, but the attraction is still there, and it's causing a good deal of grief and guilt for me. I anticipate people saying yes, it's normal, but I still feel very conflicted.

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  • secretvanity
    12 years ago

    The fact you feel guilty about something as minor as that makes you the sweetest thing ever!

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  • Infxmous
    12 years ago

    Haha. Well i worked for a manager who liked to check out all the women who came into the store, and i told him once that hes married and should not be doing that. His response? "im married, im not dead."

    Personally if my boyfriend told me he found no other girl attractive id call him a liar. I would feel like hes just trying to baby me and i dont like that. But if he focused on the other girl and not on me then i wouldnt be too happy either, its true. I dont understand what you mean by "it takes time away from my girlfriend." how so? Is that why you feel guilty?

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    absolutely, there are so many beautiful women in the world, that it would be wrong if you didn't notice other women...

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  • uPSIDEOFDOWn
    12 years ago

    Yeah dude, its called biology haha :) That's just the fitness in your sexuality expressing itself. That's completely healthy. Just stay wise, and I probably don't need to tell you this, but there's that chemical level of attraction, and then the mental pros/cons of relationships and action. Act accordingly...

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Being in love with someone doesn't destroy the natural predisposition to admire beauty.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    How attractive are they to you?

    I can look at a man and say, "Oh yes, he's very handsome." Then turn away and continue talking to my friends as I genuinely have no interest in talking to that guy or even getting to know him, or even spend any time admiring his stong jaw, nice tan, bulging muscles, gorgeous blue eyes .... aaaaaahhhh

    :o) Only joking!!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Oh hey, that might have been me.

      They aren't irresistibly attractive. But, the feelings do get obnoxious sometimes, and sometimes they distract me from time I spend with my girlfriend. We have talked about it and she understands.

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        It's ok to glance at them - 'window shop' - but not if you actually want to go and spend time talking to them etc.

        Be careful before you get married.

        This might sound daft but when I got married it was as if I didn't see other men's faces any more. I can't tell you any man's eye colour, or even hair colour - nothing!! I have no interest in looking long enough to notice or register the info.

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    Does your girlfriend know?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      She does indeed, and we've talked about it.

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      • Shackleford96
        12 years ago

        That is good that she knows. She's not upset by it, is she?

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