Is it normal to be in contact with your ex-girlfriend if she's married?

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Me and my Girl friend knew each other for almost 10 years since we were 7 years old. We were actually in love. But i think were not old enough to understand how important we were for each other. Long story short, At the age of 17 we were about to engage but because of some problems she ended up marrying somebody else!!! After her marriage we didn't contact for a year. And after a year she would somehow contact me once in a month or so and ask me about how my life was going!! It has already been 6 years and for past few days we are calling and chatting on regular basis and she told me she is not happy in her married life and her Husband doesn't treat her as she should be. He sometimes beat her badly too(not because of me). I felt like C'mon she's just 23 and she has needs from her Husband. Right now his concentration is totally in money making. In shortly she told me that her husband is not interested even kissing her(And let me tell you she's really one of the finest looking girl i have ever seen)!!!She has 4 year old Baby Girl too. Right now we are talking like we should have like that when we were about to engage!!
But we both know that the fact is that she's married. And i m single. While she is talking with me, i can feel that she's happy!! So after having the bad day if i am making her happy then let it be!! The thing i want to ask is that should i be in contact with her or not??

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    "He sometimes beat her badly too(not because of me)."

    This made me laugh for some reason.

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    • Thinker88
      11 years ago

      Yeh..I just wanted to be on the safe side!!LOL
      I meant to say her husband doesn't know about Us!!!

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Be careful he doesn't find out, because if there's one thing i know about wife beaters it's that they like beating other people too!

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  • RubyCane
    11 years ago

    So you're the scumbag who texts my wife late in the night!!! Oh, just wait till I lay my hands on you, boy... LMAO, just kidding, I think the whole "Love" part never came to an end neither in your mind & heart nor in hers... Maybe you are meant to be together for life, who knows?! If you still wanna do it, take your shot, man! I'm rooting for ya!

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  • nightmare28
    11 years ago

    I might be wrong about this, but I think she is sending you the signals to take her away.

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    • Thinker88
      11 years ago

      I don't think i can do that!!!
      bcs that would really mess so many lives!!
      And my parents will kill me :)

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    I don't see why not. You're not doing anything wrong. Its not like you're trying to steal her away from him... even though you should. ;) You're just talking. Besides, you've known her since you both were 7, and he doesn't sound like he deserves her, anyway. Anybody who treats their significant other in the way you say he does, should probably get kicked to the curb.

    I say give it time. If its meant to be, it'll be. Maybe she'll end it. You're making her happy. That matters, right? She needs you right now. You sound like a good guy. If something were to ever happen, she'll always be able to look back and say that you helped her through a really tough time in her life. With that, she could think highly of you and take you back. Good luck!

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    • Thinker88
      11 years ago

      That's what i am saying. I mean to say that her husband is not like beating her all the times!!maybe he has beat her 2-3 times but badly!! Yesterday i asked her that how her husband behaves with her regularly? she told me that he's actually taking care but a bit OVER PROTECTED about her. The thing is just that she is not getting the attention the way she wants!!
      Actually what i am thinking is if something goes wrong i don't want her to take any stupid steps like suicide or anything else. I want to make her feel that I am always there to listen to her problems and lighten up her mood!! That's why i am worried about her!!
      And actually I can handle myself very well!!!It is not like that that i will fall in love with her again!!

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    Rescue the princess!

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  • Curiousme1981
    7 years ago

    Stay in contact with her!!! She needs you love always finds away and DO NOT LET HER SLIP AWAY!!!!
    That would be a life long regret take it from experience!

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    If your willing to take on the responsibility of taking care of the child, and you can get over her past and such, to me it sounds like a situation where, if you loved and respected her for the rest of your life, you should be with her. Her husband sounds no good, and it sounds like he's already broken his vows to her, so the marriage is mute anyways.

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  • FrancoisDillinger
    11 years ago

    The guy sucks and yet she still finds the will to be with him. Typical.

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    • Thinker88
      11 years ago

      U don't understand what i am trying to say!!!
      Her divorce is not an option!!!
      Here in india it's not that easy to get separated!!!

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      • FrancoisDillinger
        11 years ago

        I did understand. You left all of that out. My comment was based off of what you wrote.

        Anyway, i'm sure even in India abuse is grounds for divorce.

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      • TheRedSheepInPic
        11 years ago

        Why don't these girls think before marrying ? I think she should get divorce from the a**hole and get the money and half of his property for being his wife. and yes its possible there has been many amendments in such acts in this decade.
        Its just the will to do, if you don't have it you can't do it.

        If you can't help her you're being a loser too. There are many NGO's to help women in this country. Girls should be vociferous to have a good status in society. How else they will get equality?

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        • Thinker88
          11 years ago

          Marrying that person was her decision, She actually did that without asking me in the pressure of her Family!!! So Is that my fault that her husband is not treating her well??
          It's just that I am not feeling well bcs she's not happy!!!

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  • Thinker88
    11 years ago

    she just messaged me right now if i m angry with her or not!!! bcs i didn't reply to her in the morning!!
    Oh God i don't know what to do!!!

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