Is it normal to be in a long term relationship and have these feelings ?

If you can't make the relationship between you and your boyfriend work out, it might be time to call it quits. Long-term relationships from a yloung age don't always work out, hell, I know couples that have divorced after 20 years. Try talking to your boyfriend about what you told us first and if nothing changes, then maybe it is time to start thinking about getting back into the game.

OMG..u sound like me talking. I'm doing the same thing. This Guy is so into me and willing to wait for me. I also unsure if this is because I'm dieing for that attention I haven't had since a teen. I'm 26 and I been with him for over 10 years. It can b very exhausting. So I feel where u commin from.

Honestly, what thiM20 said is pretty accurate. Talking about how you feel and listening to how he feels is the only way to either fix the problem or leave the relationship on a positive note. At least you talked about it and tried after five years. That is a long time and honestly its a good thing you haven't married yet.

Emotinal cheating is still cheating,
You dont know what you have until its gone
Hes into the hunt, he likes a challenge, he likes to steal and corrupt loyal gfs for his own sick pleasures (its a thing)
He wants some ass. By the time you realise you made a mistake and you want your old comfort zone back, your ex already knows you left him for a chump and is now banging all your best freinds,

First of all why is the guy hitting on you if he just got out of the relationship and if he knows you are with your man why is he sending you texts like this? In my opinion, the feelings have developed for both of you because you are in a position where your relationship is stressful and he is just coming out of it. I say take the time to assess not just your feelings but why he is communicating with you. He's probably lonely and you are wanting something different. I say think about what you would be doing if you gave up your relationship with the guy you're with? Maybe you need a break from each other or maybe you need to part ways, but the truth is, sudden decisions always seem bad. Don't you think it's ironic that you bond with someone else while you are in another relationship unhappy?

Maybe you are losing the spark. Try doing something to spice things up. Maybe its just that you need a little more spice in your relationship.

Consider this: has your current relationship "died", or is it complacent?

Lots of relationships seem to lose their flame bc the couple has stopped trying to impress or woo each other. So, you both miss it & you both start getting frustrated over it. If you want to work on the existing relationship, try setting aside a weekly date night, talking and asking each other more questions, or even just rent a movie. Make an effort to expand the relationship by putting in the effort you did when you first met.

However, if you have recognized that its really dead, sit down & talk! Don't say "you did this" etc... that is what starts the arguments. Sometimes you just need to accept that both of you have grown apart, not necessarily is it anyone's fault. Only AFTER you have dealt with your current relationship should you even consider the new guy as an "option"... not only is it unfair to your current relationship, but he is just a distraction and will be a pain for you if you truly want to make an effort.

After 5 years his time is up!

He isn't proving to be worthy of any more time, move on.

Sounds to me that the fact you're in your relationship for 5 years and now you're chatting to this new guy, that you miss just being able to talk to your bf without arguing. Its very normal but you just have to put aside all the fighting and start fresh with your bf. Ask yourself this, are you willing to throw it all away on your friend, or do you want to carry on with your bf?