Is it normal to be happy to inflict emotional pain?

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Somehow, after breaking up with my ex I've realized that I actually like making people feel bad.
Every time when she said that she cried because of my words and actions I just felt oddly excited? It always makes me feel a weird kind of happy when reading our messages where I purposefully treat her like shit and wish it could be like that again. Is this normal or okay? Or am I supposedly an asshole or something?

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  • LornaMae
    4 years ago

    You're not supposedly an asshole, you are an asshole.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Aw, that's what she said too. Remember that assholes also have good parts!! :)

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  • Clunk42
    4 years ago

    So, sadism then? Whatever. If you find sadism to sound too sexual, you could instead use the term "schadenfreuder".

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Tbh, I have found myself searching that on the internet. I don't think it is a sexual word but it can be.

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      • BleedingPain
        4 years ago

        Look up humiliation play.

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    • [Old Memory]
      4 years ago

      Alternatively, if “schadenfreude” is too violently Kraut, you could instead use the term “disturbed cunt”

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    One of my exes was like this. He even admitted it but he used to say he was like that towards everyone but me and I was very young and naive and believed it without even realizing he was constantly emotionally abusive, plus he didn't tell me until we'd been together almost a year. He called himself a sadist. No it's not normal. Get help. It's very awful to hurt people who hasn't deserved it or wants it. If you think this is something you wanna keep doing then find someone with the same desire and be honest about it.
    You can seriously damage someone and their sense of self worth. Emotional abuse is very serious.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      He sounds kind of like me.
      How did it affect you though? Did you ever put up with it or did you stand up for yourself?

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Emotional masochist. Rare but not unheard of. However, taking out this desire on unconsenting persons is a very bad thing to do so please don't.

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    • Clunk42
      4 years ago

      Wouldn't that be an emotional sadist?

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Yes my bad. Always get the two confused.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Hmph. It's not like I'm taking this out of everyone.
      Only the weakest.

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      • Clunk42
        4 years ago

        You should only do this to consenting persons, not those who don't consent.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          Not consenting into it just makes it better. At least their reactions will be genuine!

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          • Clunk42
            4 years ago

            No, that makes it wrong and immoral.

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        That's still fucking horrible, in fact uts probably worse! You seriously need to stop.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          I asked if it was okay or normal but that doesn't mean you can tell me to stop, you moral police.

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          • d0esnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            If you intentionally inflict emotional pain on weak people I will be the moral police regardless of the context. And the reason is because that's a fucking terrible thing to do!

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              4 years ago

              I don't really see why. What is exactly wrong with having a little fun? Bwecwause it hwurts somewowes fweewings? Bo-hoo.

              Can you give me a reason why it's wrong? Because it's not a socially acceptable thing or you've just been thaught that way? If it's that, there is no right and wrong since they are only opinions. Therefore, my actions cannot be wrong and your opinion is based on other people's opinions. Why say it's terrible though?
              Is that really what you think or are you just supposed to say that?

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          • Clunk42
            4 years ago

            If you aksed if it was okay, then he can indeed be the moral police.

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