Is it normal to be extremely attracted to men who treat me badly?

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I am a 19 y.o. girl who is mostly drawn to guys who treat me horribly. Over the past year I have been in a booty call/f*ck buddy relationship with a guy four years older than I am. We went to the same college, he was a super senior when I was a freshman, however we still live near each other even though he graduated. He only calls me when horny, barely speaks to me, and I almost always leave after sex because he rarely lets me stay the night. It's the definition of "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" but I keep going back for some reason...it's like I somehow get turned on by being treated like his property. :(

I don't understand it entirely, but I had a very unstable upbringing (mother never in the picture, dad in and out, both addicts) so maybe it's a deep rooted childhood thing? I want to stop but I can't tear myself away from relationships like these (i've had one other like this as well.) Help would be appreciated!

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    It sounds like it's a problem for you, and it's addictive, so I recommend you get some professional therapy. I was in a similar situation a while ago. Therapy helped a lot.

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    • flyіngnostalgіa
      8 years ago

      thanks i,ll try.

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    • Francois944
      8 years ago

      I agree. Plus the fact that she mentions having an unstable upbringing makes it sadly obvious. Hopefully, she gets help soon before it is too late. :(

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    • Niggers_like_white_women
      8 years ago

      Therapy helped, but it didn't reconcile your feelings. These types of relationships find you, you don't find them.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Pretty standard stuff for someone with your background. It comes from feeling unworthy of a better relationship.
    I you want to tackle the problem without therapy, try listing the things you feel are good about you and those you don't. If you are really honest, you might be surprised at how much longer the 'good' list is than the 'bad' one, and that should bolster your self esteem. Building on that should become a priority and in time things will turn around and you'll seek relationships with guys who treat you as you should be treated, not the loser types of before.
    Just know that you are NOT your parents, and that you do not have to follow in their footsteps.

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    • flyіngnostalgіa
      8 years ago

      ok thanks for the advice.

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  • TheWrinklySailor
    8 years ago

    Pathological. See a therapist. Being with a man that treats you well is the best feeling in the world.

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  • Steve2.1
    8 years ago

    Not normal at all. But accepted in this corrupt and warped world we live in.

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    • CreativeThinker
      8 years ago

      well said ....... every era has its own norms, it seems our ethical curriculum is centuries old .....

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    8 years ago

    i cant wait for my tax dollars to extract yalls blubberin ass from whatever fucked up situation yall got yallself into

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  • Sara0303
    7 years ago

    Not normal. You n the d to work on your low self esteem

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  • CreativeThinker
    8 years ago

    Usual for all pretty and horny girls ... no big deal ... I like the way you write by the way .... wish you good luck with all future pleasure moments .....

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  • Charli.m's_Messy_Period
    8 years ago

    I think you need a higher quality fuck buddy. You like to be "owned", but you want to be owned with respect as an equal. It shouldn't be too hard to find a guy that will give you a good orgasmic banging, then pat you on the butt, with a playful bite on your ear, and send you on your way.

    Keep his interests by arranging sex meetings in unusual places.

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  • DaddysBlondeGirl
    8 years ago

    It happened to me when I was 15, he was 21 - my first guy and he was totally the same like yours - strange family relations and calling me only when horny.. It lasted on and off for like two years and the only thing that helped me were other guys and in the end the thing that he moved to germany and i never heard of him since then.. I think it can happen to submissive girls like me.. I like when guys own me. And I believe that I wished that he will fall in love with me somehow. It was for sure something with my ego and self confidence. Just let it be, it will go away by itself.

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  • TheDentist
    8 years ago

    You like men that treat you badly.
    I love causing people lots of pain.
    De-entist!

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  • T-rex
    8 years ago

    Can you please tell me how you got into this relationship like how you met i would very much like to know so i can get a girl to be my property too. Thank you very much in advance

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    • flyіngnostalgіa
      8 years ago

      well i,m single right now where do you live?

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    • LittleGirlCallouslySodomized
      8 years ago

      It's real simple if you know how to get laid.

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      • Niggers_like_white_women
        8 years ago

        This website isn't about getting laid, it's where involuntary celibate losers find other like minded individuals.

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