Is it normal to be disinterested in things after being rejected by a girl

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So I have this feeling for a girl that could really only be described as love. Not lustful, I just feel happy to be around her, love to see her smile, and just want the best for her. I met her about a year to a year and a half ago and we had hung out a few times with mutual friends and got along well. This weekend me, her and a friend spent the week together, and I finally decided to ask her out. Turns out she isn't into men, so I was rejected but she still wants to be friends.

In the days after this, I have found myself completely disinterested in stuff that used to fascinate me. Even the fact that I'm starting a new job tomorrow seems meaningless. I used to love learning and building my career but I just don't care about it for some reason. Things feel really empty, and I just can't bring myself to care even though I want to. Some more possible relevant background, I'm 24 and I've never felt this way for any other girl I've ever met. I've never been sexually motivated to chase a girl. My only past relationships were when girls approached me. What I feel for her is something completely different from anything else I've yet experienced. So is it normal or am I just weird?

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Don't blow this over a girl that you weren't even with. I know it doesn't feel good but it will pass and you have a bright future ahead of you.

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  • Unimportant
    8 years ago

    Been there. It sucks. And it is normal.

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    There's a lesson here. Since you don't project sexuality, lesbian women will be attracted to you. Watch out for that in the future.

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  • jr__
    8 years ago

    You'll meet a new girl and still have this one as a friend. Win.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thanks for the good perspective. I do want to be just friends since she is a very nice person and I respect her. I just hope it doesn't take another 24 years before I find someone else like that. Before I met her, I was starting to suspect there was something wrong with me since I'm so much more disinterested in girls than my friends.

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    • reginaFalangi
      8 years ago

      This is actually the best advice here.
      Unless you wanna go with the intolerant homophobe who suggests you could have "cured her" from being a lesbian. (rapist alert)

      With time you'll get over her, it seems impossible now but you will. You'll fall in love again, don't be sad!!!!

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  • toofgod
    8 years ago

    I think you may have asked her out wrong. With that much time gone by you may wanted to have said something like... I'm taking you two ladies out on the town tonight in a casual manner.idk. We have a Sodomite problem in this world and its rampant. Sad good men like yourself can't find a woman.

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    • Short4Words
      8 years ago

      She could actually be a lesbian.

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  • Meditated
    8 years ago

    I aint gotta read it but ur not in LOVE.
    someone once put it perfect for me- he said-
    I u had a choice of another 10 girls who ALL "loved" and wanted to sleep with u right now, would u still think ur in "love" with this girl..........
    probs not mate - give up on the love fantasy its a bitter end

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      well, you might be right in that its not love, but it was certainly something I've never felt for someone before. Also for context, I'm coming to discover I'm just a freak for being disinterested in sex. I'm 24 and never done it and never honestly wanted to do it. I've even turned down 2 girls who asked. It just seems kinda gross and pointless to me. Anyway, I guess I'm weird. I just hope I get my enthusiasm for life back soon lol, life is hard when you have to force yourself to care.

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