Is it normal to be confused if i'm bi, gay, or straight?

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Im a 18 year old girl who is a little scared and confused about something so here it goes. Ive never really had a boyfriend but do really want one. Some members in my family think im gay because i dont have one which is not the case im just really shy and dont get out much since im homeschooled and ive always like guys but recently ever since they made that comment im starting to wonder because i saw this movie with two girls kissing in it and having sex and got really turned on. ive even had sex dreams about me and another girl and seem to get turned on more by a girl than a guy. i dont have a problem with gays or anything some people in my family are. i just really dont want to be gay or bi because i do really want to be with a guy not with a girl just really scared and confused at why im feeling this way and what i should do.

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  • georgienne
    12 years ago

    You're straight, my dear.
    Many, many straight men and women experience curiosity towards gay relationships as you have, but they are curiosities. You see something new to you, don't know what it's like and want to try it. As people, we like to taste-test everything, even if we know we may not like it afterwards (ever eaten dirt?).
    You're curious. Lesbian scenes often attract women because we often can't imagine sex with another woman, but realise it can be so gentle, warm and exhilarating: we love our feminine bodies, so to be near another is a good feeling. Other women are also easier to relate with, we can feel close than to a man, women may have a softer touch, feel and caress.

    Even if you do go on to have a lesbian experience once, you're still very straight. You're only testing waters.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    You know this is really bizarre to read. You mean your family is actually pushing you to date guys? In a lot of countries it is the opposite case.

    No just because you are not interested in men at the moment does not mean you are gay. You might just not be interested. From what I read I can not tell what you are either. Though from the sounds of it you seem very sheltered. Perhaps you should try and get out more.

    Maybe do some social situation where you have to interact with other people. Do not force it though. Hook up with someone when you are ready that you like. Do not try and force yourself to be with someone since your parents and family are assuming things.

    Just be you and let everything else come naturally. You will figure it out. Not being all about boys does not make you gay. Not being all about girls makes a boy gay either. Not everyone is checking out every other person of the same or opposite sex on the street and saying they have a nice ass, boobs, face whatever.

    Some people objectify others in a sexual manner. However no matter what your sexuality I do not think everyone does.

    I am sure not all lesbian are like fuck look at her titties I want to fuck that! I am sure not all men are starring at a chicks boobs or butt and not all girls are like I want that crotch. I do not think all gay men talk about nothing but penis even if some of them might. I hardly think objectifying people is 100% for all people. No matter what sexuality you are.

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