Is it normal to be attracted to a friend and like hearing his sex stories?

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First off, I am gay. I have been in a committed relationship with another man for 5 years. Most of my friends have been female, but I've always wanted to have a male best friend. I figure even homos need bros, right?

The problem is this: When I do finally become friends with someone willing to be tight with a gay guy, I start having these feelings. They aren't feelings of romantic attraction; as I said, I'm happily committed.

Instead, the feelings I sometimes have are purely sexual. Keep in mind, I DO NOT want to sleep with my friend. He is my buddy, and nothing more. We talk about sex and stuff, and it's pretty mellow, but I find myself enjoying his stories. I like hearing about his recent sexual encounters, or when he tells me he just rubbed one out.

While this does turn me on a little, I think the better part of me appreciates that he trusts me enough to share such intimate information with me. It means a lot. Sometimes I'll ask him "had any fun today?" and he'll gladly tell me if he's done anything.

I know he has no problem sharing, as he has demonstrated, I just don't want to come off as a creeper. He's my friend above all else, I just also enjoy his stories.

Is this normal? Or at least, acceptable?

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  • sandraasiilva
    9 years ago

    Normal. But if you are happy with your man don't mess and confuse things!

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    • johnho
      9 years ago

      I agree don't fool around, but I also have to think that this guy especially if he is telling you about sex and rubbing one out, means to me that secretly he may want to try oral sex?
      Maybe as he is talking about sex you can ask, have you ever thought of having oral with another guy? Most guys have at one time or another even if they were drunk at the time. Then you could say I can't since I am in a committed relationship but I may know somebody if you are interested?

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  • Koda
    9 years ago

    If he's so willing to tell you when he's "rubbed one out," I might question if he's completely straight. You're getting into dangerous territory here. If he ever makes a move, you gotta nip it in the bud if you don't want to lose the guy you're with.

    I think the best thing to do would be to STOP asking him about sexual encounters. There are so many more things to talk about with a friend. And trust me, if he's straight like he says, he has a lot of other male friends to brag to.

    The fact that he's open to being friends with a gay man is really positive, so don't screw it up by doing what he probably fears you'll be doing. If you start becoming coyly teasing around him, he'll probably drop you like you're hot. It's really annoying to be constantly hit on by someone you don't find attractive back, friend or not.

    Bottom line: keep it purely platonic.

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    • sandraasiilva
      9 years ago

      ^ completely. oh god, you said the words that were inside of me. thank you!

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      • Koda
        9 years ago

        Glad of it (: You're very welcome.

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