Is it normal to be asexual but want a polyamorous relationship?

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I have accepted my asexuality for a long time, but am still questioning which genders I am romantically attracted to. I honestly don't think gender matters much to me in romantic attraction but I struggle to see myself living in a monogamous relationship because of how demanding sustaining a one-on-one relationship is. I do not support cheating in any sense and would never do it myself, but I feel I would become overwhelmed by being with one person all the time! One-on-one conversations are so draining, they require your full attention constantly while in groups you can coast along and pop in and out as your please.

I often fantasise about living in a healthy polyamorous relationship where I can trust multiple people without feeling pressured for sex, as they could perform sexual acts with each other with no guilt, and not being overwhelmed by the commitment of monogamous relationships. Is this normal??

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Based on 7 votes (4 yes)
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  • shade_ilmaendu
    6 years ago

    I wouldn't necessarily suggest going for polyamory simply because of insecurities or concern about being one on one with someone. Sit down and really think about every aspect of what a polyamorous relationship would entail (if you already have disregard this).

    Make sure you'll be okay with it in all aspects before seeking something like that out, and if it still seems right for you then you may just have your answer.

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  • kwikbix
    6 years ago

    Just reading asexual and polyamorous is cause enough for me to say no

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  • NameIsTaken
    6 years ago

    Yah, many people are "scared" like you. But it changes most of the time when you find the right one.

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    • LunchIsBangin
      6 years ago

      I wouldn't say I'm "scared". I'm completely up for trying monogamous relationships, I just know I have a bad track record is sustaining long term relationships based around one person. I usually find them too clingy or they even begin to bore me. I think I like the idea of polyamory because it would give me the right ratio of affection and attention.

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