Is it normal to be annoyed with sister in law because she married young?

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I can't even figure out why I'm mad/upset with her. She's 19 and her husband is 22. So 22 is young, but not horribly so, but 19, she's a teen and she just turned 19 2 months before she got married to him.

I really want to stop being mad/upset with her because I want to love her, you know? But I keep thinking about how stupid she is for getting married so young.

Here's some details to help you help me(?):

--They met in high school when she was 15 and they were friends for an entire year, but then he moved to another state and she didnt talk to him for half a year.

--She started dating him ONLINE.
One day they randomly said they were dating and so they chatted on aim as much as possible.

-Then he got a job in the airforce and he went away for nearly a year to iraq and so she only talked to him once a month if that.

-After he got home, she moved to his state to be with him and lived there 3 months and got married to him.

-She doesn't know the basics about him like his favorite color or food so this kinda bothers me too.

-He can't afford a new car so they're stuck with one that has no AC and horrible breaks.

-My sis in law never went to college, has no job and is "thinking about getting one maybe next year".

-Now he's away again for 6.5 months and she wont get to see him until then.

But it is her life and I need to learn to accept that. I am 27, I work as a professor at a college and my husband is also 27 and a history teacher in a high school. We make good money and I told her she should try to go to college when they get enough money and she tells me it's a waste of her time.

How can I convince myself that I shouldn't be upset with her?

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    13 years ago

    In-laws are in-laws; sometimes we like them and sometimes we don't. It doesn't mean you must like them just because they are a part of your family, you just have to treat them with the same dignity and respect you expect to be treated with. She doesn't have to justify herself to you, you are not her husband. She will learn how to handle her marriage on her own and in her own way. Don't give her advice, even if she asks for it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You've posted this story before. Just let sleeping dogs lie and get over it. Let her do what she wants to do.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Hm, I don't remember if I posted something about my sister in law before, but if I did, I apologize. Must have been a while back.

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  • michaela
    13 years ago

    Quit secretly liking her husband and mind your own buisness.

    By the way, be happy for her not jealous. Jealously will get you nowhere in life.

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  • yayasaga
    13 years ago

    This sounds like a very similar story I've read here not to long ago. I don't see why people waste so much time worrying about a life they aren't even living when it doesn't even effect them in any negative at all.

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