Is it normal to be afraid of talking to a random girl you find attractive?

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Ok this post was removed for reasons unknown, i gotta do it again cos i need help, people commented before, but i didnt see them. Sorry. Ill keep it short and sweet.

I saw this girl staring at me in Boots, shes very attractive, im quite shy now even though i used to talk to attractive girls all the time at school, chat them up, however i never done anything with them as i was too "ignorant" persay. Im 20 still, a virgin, because i wasnt bothered about it at school, even though a few girls were intrested i wasnt (stupid i know) after i failed to "ask out" a girl i loved I didnt think before i spoke. Ive regretted it ever since, i havnt spoke to an attractive girl in about 3 years or a girl at all for the that matter really, because of my depression, cowardice, anxiety and paranoia. When i was in boots i caught her staring at me (one elbow on the table, cupper her chin with her hand) even my cousin said "that girl was checking you out i swear!" Being as paranoid i was i thought she thought i was stealing something due to my appearance, I suppose i look like a thug i guess, i was wearing a hoodie and stuff, its weird i know. Ive forgotten who i am, i have no idea how to go on a date with this girl at random, ive been going back to boots ever since buying stupidly overpriced bottles of Tropicana in the vein chance i might man up and say hello or something and get a conversation going. I feel pathetic and weak in that i im too worried to talk to a girl at random anymore :/ If i could talk to my former self now he would spit on me. I need a push in the right direction please help! and no silly answers please!
I dont know what to do! I see her sitting at work looking sad and i want to cheer her up somehow you know? Please i want to look in mirror with a shred of dignity!

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  • Faceless
    11 years ago

    Try small talk. Ask her if the stores been busy, how she likes working there, if she shaves. You know, small talk.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I'd say 90 percent of the males on the internet share this issue, as with 60 percent of females on the internet.

    Part of it is fear of rejection. Being told "no" really hurts. You have to get over that. You'll be told no for many things in life, get used to it.

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    • shuggy-chan
      11 years ago

      Nahhh I'm only like that with then non married ones I seduce

      And my best advice is just fake it bro, u don't actually need confidence to fake like u do, and eventually if u do that long enough u might not be faking it anymore once ur more comfortable in ur skin. At least it how I did it

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      • Anime7
        11 years ago

        Ditto, believe the lie until it becomes real.

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  • Fabulous
    11 years ago

    Jizz all over her to show your dominance

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yes jelly legs.

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  • Skitzo1
    11 years ago

    I done the deed, we went out on a few dates. She said she was waiting for me to ask her the entire time, haha. Things are looking good, thanks guys!

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    • bananaface
      11 years ago

      Awwwwww!:D Cute.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    I suffer from exactly the same problem. It's because I can't smalltalk well. There is this girl I fancy who serves at a fastfood but I can't move the convo from my order to sonething random. Let alone ask her out lol.

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  • Skitzo1
    11 years ago

    Haha, thanks guys. I'll tell you how it goes! I'll throw in a bit of small talk and ask her out on a date i guess, its not like I see her every single day, so if she says no, it wont be awkward!

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  • chicken471bologna
    11 years ago

    Man up you fucking pussy ass loser! Just go up and her out already!

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