Iin: to be afraid of sex?

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I am for the record, a female. I'm extremely afraid of sex, I have not masturbated, touched myself or had sex ever. I am afraid of being touched, although I am easily aroused and sexually minded. Just not physical.
I have a vivid memory of being molested (not seriously) as a child, but I don't think it traumatised me in anyway.
I don't know why I'm so afraid of sexual contact. IIN?

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  • TrustMeImLying
    9 years ago

    You may think you're not traumatized, and you may really not be, but that doesnt mean you're not affected by that experience. It seems like you are

    For some people, it all goes away once you're in a relationship with someone you love and trust. For some people, it inhibits their sex life long until they're in their late 20s (knew a friend)

    If you do get into a relationship, make sure it is with someone who can be patient and take it slow (easier said than done). Dont force or pressure yourself to do anything, it will come naturally, and I say this fron personal experience. If it doesnt, talk to a shrink

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  • richmanjoe
    9 years ago

    I had a girlfriend like that one time, a very nice, educated, very beautiful young woman, but without the childhood trauma. Her issue was she was trying to live up to a religious ideal, and that harmed her psychologically and she knew it.

    The way to get over this is to find an understanding and experienced partner. I will stress the experienced part, because you find some boy who doesn't realize this is about you, it will only make your feelings worse. Maybe find someone who has been (or is) married for ten or fifteen years.

    Once you find such man that you think is kind and experienced, tell him your problem and that you want his help. Arrange for the time, make sure you have many hours clear because it may take a while. Start with a shower, have him wash you off, kind of laugh and joke. You wash him too, this is an easy way to get used to another's body. Then lay on the bed and have him explore you. Your job at this point is to listen to what you are feeling. Don't stop him, just "listen". Do this a few times and you will change from fear to pleasure.

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  • Ibelievethis
    9 years ago

    It did traumatize you. It would traumatize anyone. Nothing wrong with admitting it, you know. You're not the guilty one. Have you had councelling.
    Love and support

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Since you are sexually minded, at least indulge pleasant fantasies of men. Lightly stroke your body to awaken tactile receptiveness.

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  • Mr-Myrtos
    9 years ago

    Take your time. Don't do anything till you feel prepared. Be wise, be sensible.
    No need to rush.

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