Is it normal to be afraid of getting too distracted from my relationship?

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I know that the best thing to do when youre sad about your relationship or you feel alone when its bad is to find a hobby. I get it but at the same time thats not solving anything in your relationship. I am just not a fan of that advice when they say the best thing to do is find a distraction, go hang out w freinds, etc, thats like literally running away from the problem. they say its a way of cultivating your own life but I still think the best thing to do is to communicate and solve it and thats it. Idk maybe Im just stubborn but whenever I feel down in my relationship I dont want to do anything to distract me. I just want to be in communication and not let go of the problem, but instead solve it and then move on. I feel like finding a distraction will just make me forget about it, yeah Ill be happier doing whatever Im doing but once I get back to my relationship, its just sad all over again. I guess I just like closure. I also am afraid of finding distraction because I want to feel close to my bf, and the feeling I have for him is special and I fear of it fading away if I get distracted with some sort of hobby. Unfortunately, my bf isnt the best at communicating so we dont solve our problem right away but like I said, Im so stubborn I guess that I just keep going at it until he understands and we solve the problem. I rather finish it than take a break from it.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    You definitely need other things to do but I understand the way you think. I don't like to sweep things under the rug. You're gonna have a heck of a hard time though if your boyfriend doesn't communicate well though. You can expect more of this.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Yeah Ive been going through it and its just getting tiring and annoying. The thing is when I do get distracted and Im on a roll, I just think of whats going on with my bf and I get down and none of the things that I did counted. I know it sounds bad but its just Im so in love with him and all I wanna do is be with him and I wish he can feel the same way about me but hes just so blah. I wish we can be like best friends or at least a couple that loves talking to each other all the time but it doesn't seem that way, well not all the time. Sometimes yeah we do talk all the time but then there are times where it gets lonely.

      In other words, I just feel like you're being in denial of the whole thing. Your happy doing whatever but the truth is your miserable until your relationship is solved cause its everything to you. thats how I am.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    I think you are way overthinking things here.
    If it ain't fun, then it ain't a good relationship. Maybe not all the time, but the vast majority of the time, a relationship should be fun, exciting and vibrant.
    If it isn't, then it's time to get out.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Its not that easy unfortunately especially when you love them and are committed to them. You can't just leave, thats why there are so many divorces now cause people just give up just cause its not fun anymore. If thats the case, then no one will ever find a lasting partner if they keep running away when things go bad. I guess you can say I'm old-school and I like it, rather than exploiting myself to a bunch of partners and at the end of the day, I dont know what I want cause ive been involved with so many.

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