Is it normal to be a virgin at 28?

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I'm not really sure how to overcome this obstacle... in high school and college I was really underweight and insecure about it, never really dated in that period. Post college I started dating apps more, at first I was really nervous going on first dates... now I go on them all the time without any anxiety, it's like second-nature. I've gained weight and lift weights, I feel more comfortable about my body than ever before. However, I've only given and received oral. Every time I'm about to do the deed I get major performance anxiety, because I'm afraid she'll realize this is my first time, and then I can't get hard. So I've gotten the advice to just tell her prior to trying to have sex, okay... Well, I tried that this week, I was dating this girl for about two months, and the only thing that ever happened was me giving her head once. So I told her about my situation, and she told me she wasn't comfortable going forward with this because it would be "too much pressure" for her. So now what do I do? Am I stuck like this forever?

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    She did you a favor and she let you know what a selfish bitch she is.

    Whether or not you tell is up to you. Just let it happen. Everyone had a first time and anyone who would judge you, isn't worth it anyway.

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  • Ajd2019
    5 years ago

    Go online and find an escort. There will be no pressure because your paying her for her time. She will come over get the job done and leave with your virginity. Sex is there job and the right one will be very professional. This will give u confidence the next time you go to hook up with a girl.

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    • Maid_in_Pink
      5 years ago

      It's a terrible idea! You always remember your first and the last thing you want is for that to be with some whore.

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  • palepunk
    5 years ago

    Aw. Sad.

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  • prettybaby
    5 years ago

    its not necessarily normal but it’s 100% ok your body is yours and you get to decide when you are ready (if you ever choose to make that decision)

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  • barefoot_on_the_sand
    5 years ago

    A sex worker can be a good choice.
    You don't have feelings for her/him and you'll feel more at ease.

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  • Firsttaste
    5 years ago

    Thanks for being honest, You make that move when it's convenient for you, Sounds like you are putting to much pressure on yourself, If the person who is involved with you can't accept your position she's probably not worth the time. You keep being you. Great Question.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Just look for an über nice girl who is not freaked out by that sort of thing. A Mormon girl would probably just love you. Find someone who is not especially experienced perhaps?

    Maybe you could look for someone who is a virgin like you?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Ugh, don't wanna date any bible thumpers of any sect. But I hear what you're saying.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Maybe find a more experienced older woman who is really patient?

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