Is it normal to be a narcissist but hate yourself

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I really like the way I look, I stare at myself in the mirror all the time, I've even been turned on by pictures of myself. But other than that I hate who I am personality wise, I have no confidence at all, I'm afraid of people, I even have suicidal thoughts but I'd never go thru with it cos I love myself too much. My physique is damn near perfectly fitting that of a runway model, not trying to sound conceited just going on facts and what people have told me, anyway is it normal to hate yourself but love your appearance

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  • bittersweetcupcake
    11 years ago

    Hey! Your post really caught my eye. I kinda feel the same way. Kinda. I mean, I look at myself in the mirror and I'm very satisfied with my looks. I mean, probably if I weren't heavily inked and didn't have dreads, I'd be boring. But men do think I'm hot, I model and do ads, and I am very "unique and stylish" where I live because everybody sucks and they are boring ignorant losers (I live in Beirut, Lebanon) and my fiance finds me his ultimate fantasy. However, I hate myself most of the times. I am on anti depressants and mood stabilizers, which made it a bit better; still, I do get a lot of mood swings, I get suicidal and melodramatic and I hate that. Sometimes I even think I'm very ugly (I'm a recovering anorexic/bulemic).
    Ok, there goes narcissim; I just wrote a paragraph about myself. Haha. I'm sorry.
    As for you, you hate your personality and you have no self confidence yet you stare at yourself at the mirror. That's vanity. You have to love who you are, not what you look like. All this doesn't really matter. Emphasize on your good qualities and embrace them. As for the things that you hate about your personality, write them down and work on them, one by one, daily...you'll be ok :)

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    I swear you just described me, except for the whole having a perfect runway model body. My body is alright. I like looking at myself in the mirror but I know that I'm unattractive, at least that's what I've been told. So my narcissism is the result of looking in the mirror and telling myself that people are wrong and I look good, it's really just a mask to hide the pain, but so far it hasn't chipped to badly. Anyways, I feel your pain, but hey, maybe you really are as attractive as you see yourself in the mirror.

    As for your personality, well you could always improve on that if you like, but if you have friends then that at least tells you that your personality isn't as bad you'd think.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Do more with yourself than just look.

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  • suckonthis9
    11 years ago

    Please do not use -ists or -isms.

    Please try to express yourself differently. For example, I'm a reflexive egomaniac or I'm extremely reflexively egocentric.

    What you had said, is that you are a person who looked at a reflection, then became a daffodil that hates itself. (Please see: Narcissus).

    Please do not use the Archaic euphemized term allied to an imagined netherworld.

    Through and because.

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    • kingsleycrowne
      11 years ago

      For us visual artists, the most crucial career decision is picking a good "ism" so everyone knows how to categorize you without understanding your work. You do goofy drawings on the sidewalk. Right. That's suburban post-modernism.

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      • suckonthis9
        11 years ago

        Please do not use -ists or -isms.

        Please try to describe which art(s) you do in a different way.

        This will be of eventual benefit to you.

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        • kingsleycrowne
          11 years ago

          If you insist! Ha see what I did there?

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          • suckonthis9
            11 years ago

            The question is vague.
            What did you do where?

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            • kingsleycrowne
              11 years ago

              an "Ist" exists on the end of the word insist. Ooh I might go write a list that consists of all the ists!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Why? Please use full sentences. Also, I did not say I was (a) Narcissus. Please use a dictionary.

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