Is it normal to be a guy but feel sorry for girls in social situations?

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It's quite common when I'm out on the town, or at a party, for there to be tilted ratios of men to women. There always seems to be more men than women. Often I see 4+ guys competing for one girl. Part of me wishes that there were equal ratios so us guys have a chance but then the bigger part of me puts myself into the girls shoes, and from her position I can only think that going out would be overwhelming with the amount of guys trying to talk to her and dance with her at any one time. Is this perspective, coming from a guy, normal?

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Based on 52 votes (48 yes)
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  • howaminotmyself
    10 years ago

    This is why gay bars are fun. The men there don't want in your pants. They just want to dance!

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    • GoraIntoDesiGals
      10 years ago

      You're saying that as if male-female sex is inherently bad and going to bars should just be for dancing, not to meet potential mates.

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      • howaminotmyself
        10 years ago

        You read a wee bit much into that.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Most men are social degenerates.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Although you've been thumbed down, and I'm a guy, I would still have to agree with you. I'm amazed at how many men have no idea how to talk to women with decency.

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  • dasHoff
    10 years ago

    Desperation is probably the biggest reason I don't like the bar scene, but I see it going both ways. A lot of girls are trying just as hard as men to get attention. For the ladies though I feel bad, because a lot of men truly step to new lows to maybe get lucky. At the same time though, if you're going out you should know what to expect. I just try and avoid that whole scene all together now, and if I want to meet a girl I rather it be in a place where she doesn't have to dress to the nines, and be creeped on.

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  • missy18
    10 years ago

    You're empathetic, well done! it will get you places:)

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Don't worry about it, if it bothered those women too much, they'd just leave. Seriously, the only time it's every bothered me is when it was some creepy old dude. Most men are actually very polite and, while it's obvious what they are doing, it's not offensive in any way. Plus, I never have to buy my own drink because they always insist.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Oh ok maybe its just where I live then. There's a mining boom in my state so we have men from all over the world coming here for work as most of the world is in a recession. This means theres 50,000 more men here than women and put that together with a bad drinking culture the women are simply brave to come out in the first place.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Wow, that's quite a lot of extra men! Maybe it does make a difference for the women then.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    It's worse to be one of the 4 guys who have to compete. In fact bars aren't fun for most men but a chore.

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