Is it normal to be a guy and be affected this severely by love/infatuations?

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I'm in my twenties and I've had a handful of infatuations, and half of them were relationships. Is it weird that I always handle them so poorly?

It doesnt happen with every girl, more like 3 in my life where her and I suddenly have incredible and paralyzing chemistry and I fall headfirst and lose control of myself. I'm normally a sarcastic person who makes fun of everyone but in these cases I am unable to resist showering the girl with sweet nothings, and nothing else. It is so embarrassing to act like this. What's more, my appetite decreases, I start to sleep later than udual, I struggle to function and basically become stupid. And multi-tasking becomes literally impossible. I've never done drugs but I swear when I wake up I am simultaneously at a high and "hungover/exhausted" from the night before. It makes no sense.

I remember failing my university physics course years ago because I was in my first relationship at that time. I would attend class but be unable to process concepts, because I would be thinking about my then gf mostly. Heck. I dont even know now if physics is spelled properly. And I'm usually a beast at spelling.

This is one of the main reasons I've been reluctant to delve into relationships because my normal life gets so hindered and I'm so disoriented. Do I need medical help? Is this normal?

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    Aw youre cute. After all the freaks and perverts on this site, you just made my day.
    Its normal, that's why they say theres no cure for love.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      *smacks your head with a sofa cushion* snap out of it. This is not cute! I am an adult man. Stuff like this could be normal in one's teen years but I'm 25 for goodness sake

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      • shuggy-chan
        9 years ago

        Although we're the same age, you're kind of where I was 3,4 years ago. You really got to learn the hard way how to handle ur out-of-control infatuation. If nothing else for your own sanity sake.

        Because I'm sure I don't tell you when shit ends, it ends fucking hard. And everyone involved kind of feels like shit.

        step one, you kind of had to step out of your yourself, and view yourself as someone else looking at your behavior. Maybe you're okay maybe you got reel it in a little bit.

        Step two, you got to take it in bite-size pieces man. Because it's too easy to fulfill headlong that you're in deeper than she is. Then you stop being cute and sweet, and you start being clingy and almost desperate.

        I mean I learned all this shit the hard way, and that's more based on my own personal experiences not yours. But I hope some of that advice maybe applies to you and you can use it

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  • Legion
    9 years ago

    i kinda like this, i tend to fall hard for a girl i like. usually, i tend to let it slip and it turns her away. i can still think and function ok, but like you, i think of them a lot. fortunately, I've never lost a friend from trying to get with them, usually i had ended up falling for a girl who already was my friend.

    in fact, there was only one girl i liked who it didn't feel that way to me, and by the time i knew it, she had a boyfriend.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      How interesting. You sound a lot like me.

      And your profile description is something I could have written too

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      • Legion
        9 years ago

        thanks!

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago

    I've been going through this and all that I can say is that the only thing that helps is to distance yourself a bit and let your life take precedent.

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  • Ipooprainbows
    8 years ago

    Gosh thought I was the only mental one to experience this lol ! Oh but it is serious and can become very detrimental to your working life and just ordinary living in general. I have only experienced this once for some years on a particular person and it did do my head in. Trying to get that person off your mind is barely possible and not to mention how uncoordinated & shocking I would drive when my mind was else where .

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  • ScooterNyne
    9 years ago

    As a man you are taught that you shouldn't feel anything. Which is bullshit. Feel away my man. Love is a beautiful thing. Let those emotions out!

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  • CoraCook
    9 years ago

    LOVE ON, Sweetheart!!!!! <3

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    • Ipooprainbows
      8 years ago

      For a second I thought your username said coraCock xD

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