Is it normal to be a guy and absolutely hate gender rolls?

Example 1: gf expects me to take her put and pay for everything because "that's what a man is supposed to do" but when I ask her to do my dishes and clean my house (not really expecting it but just to see how she'll react) she refuses and calls me a pig
Example 2: sitting at the bar with my now ex gf. She starts loudly talking shit about the guy and his friends next to us at the bar because of how he was bragging bout fighting his Pitt bull. When they start to notice and look around, the one guy gets up and gets in MY face because I'm the guy, and I'm with her. I grab her, and we both leave quickly so I wouldn't have to fight 4 guys. Then she gets mad at ME for not defending her lol.
Example 3: woman gets mad that on the first date the guy asks her to pay for her half of the meal and drinks, but also gets mad when men expect sex after they pay for the whole evening.

Is it normal that this hypocrisy in supposed gender rolls pisses me off?

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  • sulli94

    I like gender rolls. Especially the ones with garlic from Olive Garden.

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  • Gonfaloniere

    Gender rolls are delicious when they are fresh baked, still warm from the oven. I'm getting hungry just thinking about that doughy goodness.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Honey Child, why are you still hanging out with your ex girlfriend? She's your ex for a reason.

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  • Anonnet

    I'm actually cool with gender roles when they aren't abused or one-sided. I would gladly protect and fund a girl if she cleans my house and does my laundry. That's totally old-fashioned though, and I doubt most anyone does it like that today.

    As soon as she said you should pay for the whole meal, you should have walked out.

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  • Petrichor.

    I think that gender roles suck, sometimes. But I don't hate them when people do it right, only when they abuse them do I hate it.

    That said, how do you expect a woman to be OK with having sex with you for a $50 dinner? If you want pay for sex go with a hooker.

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  • Darkoil

    1 - I threaten mine with a good tickling and that usually gets her to do what I want.
    2 - Never back down from a fight, stand up for yourself whatever the odds.
    3 - Guys should always pay on the first date, a woman's not going to open her legs for you if she thinks you can't even pay for a meal for her.

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  • mrkrule

    Well see you're noticing the situations where you're getting the short end of the stick because you're expected to be the protector/provider. Girls are expected to be meek and passive, to avoid being too ambitious, to "put out" yet somehow not be a "slut", etc. If you don't like one side of the coin you need to be willing to stick up for the girls too.

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  • Nokiot9

    We'll. maybe I'm exaggerating a bit lol, but it's similar

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  • Nokiot9

    I have no problem for paying for one of my friends dinners that's a girl or even someone I've been dating. It's just fucked up that women, especially on a first date with a stranger, expect to be totally taken care of, when we aren't allowed to have any expectations because that's how it's supposed to be? Bs. And wtf. Why can my gf not take ME out to dinner just once instead of expecting me to do it everysingletime. It's the kind of 1950s mentality that kept black people out of college universities and homosexuals repressed for decades.

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  • BandShirtsAreCoolMmkay

    I don't mind gender roles at all, aslong as both man and woman in the relationship are cool with it.

    I think its nice when a man brings home the bacon and his women takes care of everything else. I think its sweet for a guy to pay for a meal, and I think you're a jerk for saying you'd expect a woman to sleep with you just because you payed. You that cheap? Respect a woman, and she will respect you.

    All in all, you're entitle to your own opinion, but I think you're wrong.

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  • DarQness

    Mmm rolls :). *nom, nom, nom* *looks up* O_o, what are you looking at?! MY ROLLS! MINE! MINE!

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  • KQueenK

    Its normal but they are there for a reason. I also think that us ladies should sometimes pay for ourselves instead of relying on a guy. Try switching it up and see if your still complaining.

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  • Yes, it's normal for anyone with a rational brain to think it is bullshit to think it is wrong for women to be held by gender roles while expecting men tostick to theirs.

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  • RainbowDischarge

    Cmon, we're in the 21st century. Women make money and can provide for themselves. They can also split bills or even cover the full bill, wow!! I think its selfish to think men should pay for everything. I really like when im able to pay for my man. It feels good.

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  • Zenafa

    Most women I know would prefer to be in an equal relationship where they can pay for stuff too. Just saying.

    Although you can't demand sex just cause you were gullible enough to buy this girl a meal xD

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  • MysteriousTrainerfromBeyond

    I hate gender roles too.

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  • thegypsysailor

    Are you another jerk or the same one from the previous post?

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    • Nokiot9

      Lol you really don't like me do you? I'm sorry if asserting my worth and not letting women walk all over me because 'it's what I'm supposed to do' makes me look like a jerk. I still open doors for them and pull their chairs out, and walk in the rain because the umbrella isn't big enough, for women who deserve it and even some strangers. It just pisses me off that it seems like it's EXPECTED.

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      • thegypsysailor

        It isn't personal, it's your style of posting. It come quite close to hating all women, or at least the roll you find yourself playing with them.

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        • Nokiot9

          Aaaaahhhhhhhhh I hate ALLLL PEOPLES WITH VAGINAS! DIEEEEEE! Lol just because I'm having problems with the insanity that calls herself a woman, doesn't mean I hate ALL of them. Hell... I don't even think I hate the one in question. And if u don't like what I have to say and disagree and it makes u angry, u shouldn't comment. Are you sure ur not just pissed off that...90+% agree with me. Lol

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          • thegypsysailor

            I don't see why you think I'm pissed off or don't like you. Why would I care what 90 percent think? I do not follow trends and do think independently, so no, that ain't it. I just find your posts to be very angry and repetitive, yet interesting enough to comment. Sorry to offend.

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  • hmmm???

    I may get bashed for this but here goes...now days it's hard for man or woman to know their place. Women go to work, men stay home. Women think they can do a mans job. Men use the falling terms "Must of been a woman!" Or "Is your man-gina hurting?" It's all messed up in my opinion.

    Respect, whatever happen to just having respect? I think if a man asks a woman to dinner, he should pay. By the end of the evening if things go well, it's up to both to decide what happens next.
    As far as defending a woman that's trash talking? Why should he HAVE to? She was the one doing it. If she was brave enough to say something out loud, why can't she defend herself?

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