Is it normal to be a 19 year old virgin and think no woman will ever want me.

Althought im still technically 18 ill be 19 kinda soon and ive been thinking that i havent had sex yet. Obviously pretty much all of my friends have lost their virginity and i am literally one of the few that havent. But a woman needs to find you attractive in order to sleep with you. Im not the most confident guy in the world and im not exactly brad pitt. Ive been trying to work on my image and make myself more appealing to women yet, it ain't exactly working. Now i have been thinking im going to be lonely for the rest of my life. And adding this stress to many stresses i have acquired through the past few months i have become depressed and i dont know if i should seek help for it or if i am just in a lonely stage in my life. Am I crazy?

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  • Pisslan616

    I'm an 18 year old virgin too. Never been kissed and never had a girlfriend. It bothers me sometimes but not all the time. I think I want the companionship more that I want to lose my virginity really.

    I think it's normal. I know a few people in the same boat.

    People have told me that with enough confidence you can get a girl to like you, regardless of how good looking or otherwise you are. I just hope they are right.

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    • I same it's not really just about losing my virginity, it's more about finding the girl that is just for me. I just want someone to love and someone to love me.

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  • ck38

    Awww you will find someone lovely I'm sure. You sound so sweet. Try not to let it bother you, the harder you look for it the longer it will probably take. Don't worry if you are not the most attractive man out there. Plenty of girls can see deeper than that.
    Console yourself by acknowledging that a pretty girl on the arm of an 'ugly' guy is much more common that a good-looking guy with an 'ugly' chick.
    What I'm trying to say is you got heaps more chance of hooking up with someone than that poor ugly girl down the street. Women are not as shallow as men

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    • Thanks a lot. That makes me feel better. Strangers are soo much nicer than people i know lol.

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  • hokisgurl

    Shoot if a guy is a virgin I think that's a turn on I've taken som younger guys virginities it's more fun With them

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  • Most girls like the idea of having their first time w/ a virgin (:

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  • Normalguy24/7

    I'm also 18 and still a virgin... Like you said most of my friends also lost their virginity at an earlier age. I think most of them thought they had to do it just to be part of the non-virgin group. Just take it easy and your time will come. It will happen when its suppose to,,,

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  • Sweetz

    No you are not crazy. You just want to feel desired.. wanted... Loved... Having sex doesn't always make you feel better about your self, unless its with someone you care about. Don't rush it. Look on the bright side about being a VIRGIN... there are many diseases out there at least you don't have to worry about getting checked and having an STD or something. To get a girl you don't neccesarily have to be confident you just have to act like you are..make sure you smell good don't overload on axe or cologne >.< id so help you

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    • Thanks lol ill give it try.

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  • joybird

    It's normal to think this at your age, but it's not true.

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  • Twarrior

    Two words my friend... Whore house. If you want a girl treat them like crap so they will have something to change. But don't do it too well. You might screw up and get married like me.

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    • Viper210

      LoL xD

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    • inezzzy47

      wow

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  • Solophonic

    It's normal to think that, however you need convince yourself in your mind that you are sexy and a great catch. Start leaving your comfort zone, wear better clothes, and just say whatever pops in your head in conversations. Fake it until you make it. In high school I was certainly the farthest thing from sexy. I had long hair, wore stupid clothes from hot topic, and was anti social, but when I left I just started faking it and eventually it becomes a natural part of you.

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  • Oli

    That's exactly it - women can see you're an ass who just wants to get rid of their virginity. Keep this up you'll be a virgin for the rest of your life.

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    • I really disagree. The author of this post doesn't sound at all like an asshole. If anything he sounds frustrated, like the odd man out in his group of friends. My best advice for the author of this post to just be himself because whether you know it or not there is at least one girl who finds you attractive trust me.

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  • Cray_Z_Bloke

    If you want to get laid then just have a trip to Philippines and you will find many trully lovely girls there who really will want you. You could have a great holiday and who knows maybe fall in love.

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  • Elle93

    When i met my boyfriend he was in the same boat as you. Not anymore :) So trust me, everything will fall into place.

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  • Misses-Jack-Sparrow

    I'm a girl 18 I'm not a virgin but I wish I was the guy I lost mine to was just using me for that, I've been with other guys but we only did other stuff. Don't be shy I'm shy and I haven't been with anyone in 2 years. Go with ur friends places if they have girlfriends ask if they have any friends. PUT YOUR SELF OUT THERE!!

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  • #1A$$HO!@

    You're gonna be alone your entire life if you dont learn to put yourself out there. You cant sit around hoping and waiting that "The One" will come walking up to you someday and sweep you off your feet and you'll live happily ever after. Are you really ready to not be a virgin? If so YOU need start asking at least 10 girls out a week, every week and keep in mind you WILL get turned down, ALOT, but dont give up and dont take it personal. Not everyone likes everyone else. It's a numbers game, the more you try the better your odds of winning. Oh yah dont use the same stupid openings everytime when you talk to a girl,unless it works, sometimes be serious,sometimes be adventurous,sometimes be silly,heck even act like an asshole at times some chicks dig that. What ever you try dont be shy or timid, be a man, put it your head that she's just a girl and remember, dont quit just because you get turned down a few times and never get caught up one the same girl if she turns you down, just move on to the next one. You have 2-3 years left at most to find a woman your age, dont waste it or you'll sooner than you think be a 40 year old man looking for a divorced two time mom to settle with instead of a woman of your own.

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  • fyinight1

    Im 18 year old virgin too, and Im good looking guy.I dont think losing ur virginity over a slut is worth it....and stop thinking that losing ur virginity will make u cool like everyone. + if u find someone watch out for aids oO + these days ratio of girl to man is 2:1 its gana be easy dont worry.And many guys turnign gay these days so adds to ur chances

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  • EveningOwl

    Oh darling, I'm an 18 year of female, let me tell you most of those boys are lying. But I don't beileve in sex before marriage. And the boyfriends I've had are older and either about this sad,or turned on by the limits or challenge or my purity & innocence?..whatever So don't worry you'll find someone, that'll be turned on by your purity ? btw. pretend it's by choice, it gives you leverage, & your you'll be a rare fish amoung dirty toxic fish who goto whore houses? wow...creeper...btw 19 is young.

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  • Treez

    You can find an overpowering woman that can trust you and spend te rest of your life with her

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  • Lawson926

    I'm a soon to be 20yr old virgin and I'm fine wit that. People call me gay or stupid cuz I want to wait a while before losin my virginity. I think that ppl think about sex WAY 2 much and it puts alot of pressure on ppl to go out and hav meaningless sex wit any1. As far as looks go, I'm brown skin wit a MJ-styled jheri curl,a little chubby wit a skinny face and I'm not that bad lookin and there was only 1 girl that paid attention to me so there are sum girls who aren't so stuck up and I'm sure you'll find that 1.

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  • Dizzee

    Why do people always want to lose their virginity? Wouldn't you rather wait for someone who truly loves you to come along rather than to waste it on someone whom you'll probably never see again? And yes, I am a virgin and I'm hella proud of it too.
    I've been kissed though, but honestly, I wish I didn't waste the kiss on some jerk. I should've waited, but got impatient.
    I'm going through that same lonely depressed state like you. However, I recently almost lost my virginity to some person whom I liked and I figured out that they were a jerk too. I'm glad I'm still a virgin.

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  • SOADslave

    In the Same boat brother. Sometimes I think that I'll never find someone to be with. And working pretty much 4 hours a day without seeing or hearing anyone doesn't help at all.

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  • jmb4eva

    Lol were do you live

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  • jmb4eva

    Get to know me lol

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    • Lol I would like that

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  • OMG I totally feel that way! About men of course.

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  • gogators

    My boyfriend and I are both 20, and we both were virgins until a few months ago :)

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  • funsized

    aww don't feel that way!!! u will find someone very special one day and she will take advantage of u sexually over and over! lol it just takes time..

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  • enzyme1

    IM 20 and im not brad pit either but im not a virgin so haha. no it doesnt matter hey, are you fat, thats a big turn off for heaps of people and so easy to fix, if you arent fat then you could easily get sex if you wanted, most guys are really cute and i think taking a guys virginity would be fun. and you know even tho everyone else has lost theres its not weird to still be a virgin,

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  • Just wait until you find someone who loves you for who you are!
    *holds back laughter*
    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
    Sorry. So so sorry.
    I'm only 13 and I've lost my virginity, but I'm a girl, so I guess it's a little different.

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