Is it normal to be 22 years old and have never ever been asked out on a date?

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I'm 22 years old and I have never been asked out on a date. I'm not the most outwardly social type of person, but I'm not a hermit either. I'm generally a kind person and don't criticize or have a negative vibe.
But I am rather chubby. not obese, just have a little extra. I'm not sloppy with my apparel, I usually dress well. I can't help but think there must be something wrong with me. I haven't gone out on a single date, or kissed someone..or even held hands with someone. I've never been hit on, and when i go out guys never seem to notice..it's like I'm someone people would rather ignore.
And it's not that I obsess with having a boyfriend or am guy-dependent; it's just that when you get to this age you really start to think on it, you know?

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  • Sog
    11 years ago

    If you see someone that you're attracted to, you need to be courageous enough to look him directly in the eye and flash him a huge smile.

    I'm definitely more shy than most, but when a girl does that to me, I'm over there in an instant.

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    • flutterhigh
      11 years ago

      Meh. I don't really think there's a foolproof method for getting a date, and even if there was, what's the point of molding yourself into that in order to be the kind of person others would want to date? There are plenty of guys that prefer to go for the coy or uninterested kind, anyway.

      As hackneyed as this sounds (and good god do I hate cliches), the best thing to do is to "be yourself". That is, don't try to act a particular way that may or may not be more conducive to dating, because that'll lead to a relationship based on false pretenses - an illusion which is sure to shatter.

      You are still incredibly young. It only feels like forever because your past is all you've known.

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    • AbnormallyAwesome
      11 years ago

      THIS
      Intrest is incredebly atractive. And we can't read minds.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I have never been on a date in my life, i just meet girls, we have sex, then we become boyfriend and girlfriend if we feel like it. I don't get asking someone on a date, i always thought that was just in the movies.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    I don't know why everybody thinks this is normal. lol. Not everyone is a early bloomer in the relationship department but ... 22 years and not ONE admirer? I don't believe it. You really should open your eyes, pay attention to men, and smile. If you don't hang around a lot of guys, you better start. The more guys you say hi and smile to...the more are ready to lick your ass, no matter how you look. [lol sorry 4 the imagery]

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  • suckonthis9
    11 years ago

    I'll go out on a date with you.
    (Should you not mind going on a date with an older gentleman.)
    Now you've been asked out. Feel better?

    Maybe the problem is not your outward appearance or behaviour. Why wait for them to ask you out? If you see a man that you like (make certain he is single), ask him out.

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    • 7even
      11 years ago

      Agreed. Women need to learn that it is 100% okay to take the initiative.

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  • Ryan556
    11 years ago

    I think it's obvious for me and I'm a shy guy lol Mario reference when a girl looks me in the eyes smiles and says hello I'm all over her this works if she says her name and you don't know her

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  • LovingLifeBestICan
    11 years ago

    You need to start seeing yourself as sexy and desirable. And then start taking action. So for ex, Look in the mirror every day for atleast 20-30 min and rehearse to yourself how sexy and Hot you are and how guys wanna meet you and screw/date you. You need to internalize this. Also tell yourself 'I let go of the need to be liked or accepted'

    You should do this for atleast 3 months straight. And start visualizing guys hitting on you etc.
    I know it sounds all flip flop and LOA Bs but its not.

    Now as for action, easy, basically all you have to do is be more social and friendly. Like one comment said, Start smiling and looking men in the eyes when you talk to them. Basically your mindset will eventually become a reality and guys will start to see you like you see yourself. At the end of any 'chat' you can say, so, what are you doing tonight? Or later? The rest will happen on its own..

    Weird that you're having troubles but normal, most guys these days dont talk to women they don't know for fear of rejection. The guys you talk to probably are sitting back there wondering if you are interested in them or if they seem interesting. Thats the truth. I blablled alot lol but I hope this helps

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Why not try working out just to tone up a lil bit, you will be amazed at the difference it can make, not just in your appearance but in your overall feeling of self worth.

    If you look good, and you know you do, then you tend to feel pretty good as well.

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  • Marisol
    11 years ago

    It is normal and I honestly believe that everyone is attracted to someone regardless of looks. I have never been asked out either. Oh well...

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  • blaster
    11 years ago

    I never know about that one for the simple fact that if I don't chase then I'm not sure anyway , or keen so.

    Hmmm , dunno , any pics - no you don;t have to but maybe there's too many trim and taunt types around you or , maybe your vibes not as welcoming , vibes huge.

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