Is it normal to be 18 and be in a serious relationship with a 14 year old?

So I met my girlfriend on Omegle. We became friends instantly, and have been talking everyday on skype for the past five months. I have helped her through a lot of very serious problems (she has been raped, molested and abused all her life up until recently) and issues having to deal with the problems. I am the only one that she has told most of these things to, and I have helped her with them more than most therapists that shes been to. So a few weeks after I met her I realized that I was falling in love with her. I tried to deny it, saying that she was 14 and I shouldn't feel this way. But after four months of loving this girl, I finally had to tell her. I pour my heart out to her, tell her that ive been in love with her since the begging. I'm expecting, "I never want to talk to you again, pervert." Or "That's... interesting..." But instead she hugs her Ipod as I break down crying (you have no idea how hard it is to confess your love when your positive that your going to lose the person because you told them) but I look up and shes smiling. She says, "I'm really glad that you said something, because I never would have." She was in love with me for as long as I was with her. We had kept it from each other because we were sure that the other wouldn't reciprocate. So taking all this information in, do you think its normal or moral for me to be in a commuted relationship with a 14 year old?

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Based on 80 votes (35 yes)
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Comments ( 13 )
  • RegGuy

    It's not normal, as in common, but no, I don't think that there is anything wrong with it from a moral standpoint. Just don't get too carried away and give yourselves time to mature.

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  • FreakyBitch

    It sounds like you really love and care about her and you have helped her to work through some really shit stuff! I think as long as you are careful and it doesn't get sexual any time soon it's normal yes! Enjoy being in love its so special! :) x

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  • I think it's normal but I wouldn't recommend having sex because it is illegal. I would recommend keeping her as a friend though. Personally I think the underage sexual limit should be half your age + 5 makes sense to me although most laws wouldn't agree with that.
    I will probably be judged for this but my first girlfriend was 15 when I was 20. She was the one who asked me out too and we had classes together. It all depends on the situation. Her parents liked me too and honestly she was much more socially and emotionally developed then me. My social and emotional development at the time was probably equivalent to a 10 year old so sometimes the younger person is more aware of what they're doing but that is not always the case.
    Even though our relationship only lasted a few months were still good friends 10 years later and she is doing really good with her life.

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  • FireFlower

    It's not normal

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  • thegypsysailor

    At this point, your involvement with this girl is going to deprive her of the growing up she needs to do with her peers. If she completely misses the "high school" experience and spends all her free time with you, on the computer or otherwise, she will mature too fast. If you truly love this girl, you must distance yourself from her and let her grow up without you in her life. If you do not let her go, I would bet you she won't even finish high school, and you will probably ruin her life.
    After she reaches 18, if you haven't found someone and she wants to get together with you, then go for it.
    Sorry dude, you just are not good for her, in the long run.

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    • Couman

      While I agree with some of this, that seems like an overly pessimistic prediction. How do you figure an online relationship would prevent her from finishing high school?

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      • thegypsysailor

        They will eventually run away together or she'll move in with him and that will be the beginning of the end for her.

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  • arthurarthur

    I had the same situation. I was 18, she was 13. we connected on every level ..but of course sex was new to both of us. by 14 almost 15 she was ready, willing, and more than able. I of course got scared with the age, law thing and backed away. Killing our relationship as it was/is something she really needed to have with someone she respected and loved and trusted. I have always wished I had been there for her.
    She later got into all kinds of trouble and last I spoke with her... 10 yrs ago? she was tweakin' with local trash and raising two kids with a guy.
    If you both fell strongly about sex pro or con, explore the do's and don'ts about it. I feel we have forced our society into an age based limit for sexual relationships that should be more naturally allowed.

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  • Shackleford96

    I'm just curious, have you ever met this girl in real life?

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  • ThisIsImpossible

    Get the fuck away from her man, get fffffaaaaaarrrrr away, you should be thinking about what you're doing with your life over the next five years, she's thinking about her favorite cartoon shows, there's a reason people say this shouldn't happen and you should already know why.

    Just think about how much you've changed since you were 14, and if you haven't changed you should worry about self reflection over a relationship.

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  • ObsessedWithReedus

    Well, I personally think it's very normal, But ya know, maybe it's cuz i'm a little biased towards this type of thing. Being soul bound lovers and all that. I think she must be really comfortable with you and trust you a lot if she's in a relationship with you. IDK man, I just think some of these people are overreacting. Just a little. I don't see anything wrong with it. As long as you two are in love. Which i'm positive you are. But, as you probably know, not many people see our point of view. But guys, you really shouldn't give the OP a hard time, love is love.

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  • KeepsakeDoll

    I can see how much you care for her, but 14 is a very 'undeveloped' age. Mentally and emotionally. Please, please trust me on this. No matter what anyone says about their maturity level at that age, it's just too young.

    If the two of you still keep in contact by the time she's maybe 16 or something, then you'll know if it's love since saying it is easier than actually doing something that truly shows it.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Can't be much of a serious relationship if you only hang out online.

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